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Com­mu­ni­ca­tion Cultures

TagLast edit: Jan 17, 2022, 11:27 PM by Erich_Grunewald

A Communication Culture is a set of norms, expectations, and assumptions that a group of people adopts around communication. It is probable that some Communication Cultures are objectively better than others, but is definite that difficult clashes occur when people operating under different cultures interact.

Awareness of Communication Cultures is therefore key to getting along with others not perfectly sharing our background and preferences.

Notable Communication Cultures (these are usually contrasted along some dimension) are: Ask vs Guess (and Tell/​Reveal); Wait vs Interrupt; and Combat vs Nurture.

See also: Simulacrum Levels

Tag Status: C-Class

Re­veal Culture

MalcolmOceanJul 25, 2020, 3:36 AM
92 points
18 comments7 min readLW link2 reviews

Tell Culture

LoganStrohlJan 18, 2014, 8:13 PM
268 points
229 comments3 min readLW link

Ask and Guess

[deleted]Dec 1, 2010, 5:54 PM
133 points
66 comments2 min readLW link

Wait vs In­ter­rupt Culture

BenquoNov 27, 2013, 3:38 PM
129 points
72 comments3 min readLW link

Con­ver­sa­tional Cul­tures: Com­bat vs Nur­ture (V2)

RubyDec 31, 2019, 8:23 PM
143 points
92 comments9 min readLW link5 reviews

To listen well, get curious

benkuhnDec 13, 2020, 12:20 AM
367 points
37 comments4 min readLW link1 review
(www.benkuhn.net)

Notes on Sincer­ity and such

David GrossDec 1, 2020, 5:09 AM
9 points
2 comments10 min readLW link

Nega­tive Feed­back and Simulacra

ElizabethApr 29, 2020, 2:00 AM
156 points
24 comments9 min readLW link1 review
(acesounderglass.com)

Dun­can Sa­bien: “In Defense of Punch Bug”

Davis_KingsleyMay 3, 2018, 8:26 AM
30 points
187 comments1 min readLW link
(medium.com)

Failures in Kindness

silentbobMar 26, 2024, 9:30 PM
416 points
60 comments9 min readLW link

Your Cheer­ful Price

Eliezer YudkowskyFeb 13, 2021, 5:41 AM
272 points
83 comments17 min readLW link6 reviews

Em­pa­thetic vs In­trin­sic Oof

Ronny FernandezAug 24, 2020, 12:12 AM
8 points
3 comments4 min readLW link

[Question] Should we use qual­ifiers in speech?

Adam ZernerOct 23, 2020, 4:46 AM
35 points
34 comments1 min readLW link

I Am a Di­men­sional Trav­el­ler from a World of Highly Sen­si­tive Rationalists

LightStarJan 30, 2022, 1:00 PM
34 points
20 comments2 min readLW link

Tak­ing it Pri­vate: Short Cir­cuit­ing De­mon Threads (work­ing ex­am­ple)

RaemonJan 22, 2018, 12:37 AM
24 points
70 comments5 min readLW link

It’s Not About The Nail

eapacheApr 26, 2020, 11:50 PM
30 points
8 comments2 min readLW link

Reneg­ing Prosocially

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated)Nov 30, 2021, 7:01 PM
174 points
15 comments17 min readLW link1 review

Lurk­ing More Be­fore Join­ing Com­plex Conversations

RaemonJul 11, 2020, 5:11 PM
42 points
11 comments3 min readLW link

Ba­sics of Ra­tion­al­ist Discourse

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated)Jan 27, 2023, 2:40 AM
279 points
193 comments36 min readLW link4 reviews

Not all com­mu­ni­ca­tion is ma­nipu­la­tion: Chap­er­ones don’t ma­nipu­late proteins

ChristianKlSep 27, 2020, 4:45 PM
35 points
14 comments2 min readLW link

A Crisper Ex­pla­na­tion of Si­mu­lacrum Levels

Thane RuthenisDec 23, 2023, 10:13 PM
92 points
13 comments13 min readLW link

So­cial sta­tus part 1/​2: ne­go­ti­a­tions over ob­ject-level preferences

Steven ByrnesMar 5, 2024, 4:29 PM
118 points
15 comments21 min readLW link

Notes on Innocence

David GrossJan 26, 2024, 2:45 PM
13 points
21 comments18 min readLW link

Com­mu­nity norms poll (2 mins)

Nathan YoungMar 7, 2024, 9:45 PM
11 points
1 comment1 min readLW link

Rele­vance Norms; Or, Gricean Im­pli­ca­ture Queers the De­cou­pling/​Con­tex­tu­al­iz­ing Binary

Zack_M_DavisNov 22, 2019, 6:18 AM
99 points
30 comments3 min readLW link3 reviews

Un­der­rated Proverbs

Arjun PanicksseryJun 13, 2024, 12:30 PM
13 points
9 comments1 min readLW link
(arjunpanickssery.substack.com)

On differ­ent dis­cus­sion traditions

Eugene ShcherbininApr 7, 2025, 11:00 PM
1 point
0 comments2 min readLW link

De­mon Threads

RaemonJan 7, 2018, 3:48 AM
76 points
74 comments9 min readLW link

In­for­ma­tion vs Assurance

johnswentworthOct 20, 2024, 11:16 PM
187 points
17 comments2 min readLW link

Ad­vice on Com­mu­ni­cat­ing Concisely

EvolutionByDesignOct 20, 2024, 4:45 PM
3 points
9 comments1 min readLW link

A Prin­ci­pled Car­toon Guide to NVC

Jan 7, 2025, 9:01 PM
39 points
5 comments5 min readLW link

Reflec­tions on Ar­gu­ing about Politics

PontorApr 13, 2020, 5:33 PM
11 points
4 comments3 min readLW link

Com­mu­ni­cat­ing effec­tively un­der Knigh­tian norms

Richard_NgoApr 3, 2023, 10:39 PM
96 points
54 comments6 min readLW link

On “aiming for con­ver­gence on truth”

gjmApr 11, 2023, 6:19 PM
67 points
55 comments13 min readLW link

Ex­pres­sive Vocabulary

AlicornMay 24, 2018, 6:59 AM
147 points
71 comments5 min readLW link1 review

On the Chatham House Rule

Scott GarrabrantJun 13, 2018, 9:41 PM
68 points
25 comments4 min readLW link1 review

Back­ground Read­ing: The Real Hufflepuff Se­quence Was The Posts We Made Along The Way

RaemonApr 26, 2017, 6:15 PM
37 points
27 comments8 min readLW link

The Law of Cul­tural Proximity

eapacheJun 3, 2020, 2:18 AM
8 points
3 comments4 min readLW link

Crock, Crocker, Crockiest

ScrewtapeNov 10, 2023, 6:14 AM
21 points
4 comments6 min readLW link

Quaran­tine Bub­bles Re­quire Direct­ness, and Tol­er­ance of Rudeness

RaemonJun 7, 2020, 7:52 PM
37 points
8 comments3 min readLW link

On Tap­ping Out

ScrewtapeNov 17, 2023, 3:23 AM
51 points
14 comments8 min readLW link1 review

Say Wrong Things

Gordon Seidoh WorleyMay 24, 2019, 10:11 PM
116 points
13 comments4 min readLW link

Sport­ing vs. Herd­ing: two styles of discourse

Suspended ReasonJul 25, 2020, 1:56 AM
5 points
4 comments9 min readLW link

Do­ing prin­ci­ple-of-char­ity better

SniffnoyMar 27, 2025, 5:19 AM
22 points
1 comment3 min readLW link

In­tu­itive differ­ences: when to agree to disagree

Kaj_SotalaSep 29, 2009, 7:56 AM
35 points
36 comments4 min readLW link

“Can you keep this con­fi­den­tial? How do you know?”

RaemonJul 21, 2020, 12:33 AM
164 points
43 comments3 min readLW link2 reviews

Pa­ram­e­ters of Privacy

RaemonJul 29, 2020, 1:18 AM
31 points
2 comments6 min readLW link

Sup­port That Sounds Like Dissent

jimrandomhMar 20, 2009, 10:28 PM
87 points
35 comments2 min readLW link

Bet­ter debates

TsviBTMay 10, 2023, 7:34 PM
78 points
7 comments3 min readLW link

How I ap­ply (so-called) Non-Violent Communication

Kaj_SotalaMay 15, 2023, 9:56 AM
85 points
28 comments3 min readLW link

How to Frame Nega­tive Feed­back as For­ward-Fac­ing Guidance

LironFeb 9, 2020, 2:47 AM
46 points
7 comments3 min readLW link

[Question] What are the com­po­nents of in­tel­lec­tual hon­esty?

abramdemskiJan 15, 2019, 8:00 PM
30 points
4 comments1 min readLW link

Hufflepuff Cyn­i­cism on Crocker’s Rule

abramdemskiFeb 14, 2018, 12:52 AM
16 points
11 comments2 min readLW link

The 12 Se­cond Rule (i.e. think be­fore an­swer­ing) and other Epistemic Norms

RaemonSep 5, 2016, 11:08 PM
35 points
12 comments3 min readLW link

Con­ver­sa­tion as path traversal

Adam ZernerDec 27, 2021, 8:41 AM
14 points
4 comments4 min readLW link

Meta-con­ver­sa­tion shouldn’t be taboo

Adam ZernerJun 5, 2023, 12:19 AM
34 points
36 comments4 min readLW link

Us­ing Claude to con­vert di­a­log tran­scripts into great posts?

mako yassJun 21, 2023, 8:19 PM
6 points
4 comments4 min readLW link

Nega­tivity en­hances positivity

Adam ZernerJul 2, 2023, 2:47 AM
12 points
7 comments2 min readLW link

How I talk to those above me

Maxwell PetersonMar 30, 2025, 6:54 AM
94 points
13 comments8 min readLW link

“Jus­tice, Cher­ryl.”

Zack_M_DavisJul 23, 2023, 4:16 PM
91 points
21 comments9 min readLW link1 review

Com­bat vs Nur­ture: Cul­tural Genesis

RubyNov 12, 2018, 2:11 AM
35 points
12 comments6 min readLW link

A So­cial His­tory of Truth

VaniverJul 31, 2023, 10:49 PM
64 points
2 comments14 min readLW link

Some rea­sons why I fre­quently pre­fer com­mu­ni­cat­ing via text

Adam ZernerSep 18, 2023, 9:50 PM
51 points
18 comments2 min readLW link

Con­tra Yud­kowsky on Epistemic Con­duct for Author Criticism

Zack_M_DavisSep 13, 2023, 3:33 PM
69 points
38 comments7 min readLW link

On be­ing downvoted

Adam ZernerSep 17, 2023, 1:59 AM
27 points
15 comments3 min readLW link

Ac­tu­ally, “per­sonal at­tacks af­ter ob­ject-level ar­gu­ments” is a pretty good rule of epistemic conduct

Max HSep 17, 2023, 8:25 PM
37 points
15 comments7 min readLW link

Trans­la­tions Should Invert

abramdemskiOct 5, 2023, 5:44 PM
48 points
19 comments3 min readLW link

Lack of So­cial Grace Is an Epistemic Virtue

Zack_M_DavisJul 31, 2023, 4:38 PM
39 points
105 comments4 min readLW link2 reviews

More or Fewer Fights over Prin­ci­ples and Values?

Oct 15, 2023, 9:35 PM
24 points
10 comments14 min readLW link

For Bet­ter Com­ment­ing, Avoid PONDS

DirectedEvolutionJan 20, 2021, 1:11 AM
77 points
16 comments2 min readLW link

Gossip

Yoav RavidMar 21, 2021, 1:36 PM
12 points
7 comments11 min readLW link

On Automoderation

ZviMar 19, 2017, 2:56 AM
1 point
0 comments8 min readLW link

Pri­vacy and Manipulation

RaemonDec 5, 2021, 12:39 AM
80 points
41 comments8 min readLW link

Nuanced and Ex­treme Countersignaling

DirectedEvolutionJan 24, 2022, 6:47 AM
29 points
9 comments6 min readLW link

My Ap­proach to Non-Literal Communication

Isaac KingMay 1, 2022, 2:47 AM
29 points
8 comments14 min readLW link

Two Proso­cial Re­jec­tion Norms

EmrikApr 28, 2022, 8:53 PM
54 points
21 comments3 min readLW link

Reflec­tions on Liv­ing in “Guess Cul­ture”

Dalton MaberyJun 28, 2022, 9:00 PM
13 points
1 comment3 min readLW link

Straw-Steelmanning

Chris van MerwijkJul 13, 2022, 5:48 AM
29 points
2 comments1 min readLW link

Mar­riage, the Giv­ing What We Can Pledge, and the dam­age caused by vague pub­lic commitments

Jeffrey LadishJul 11, 2022, 7:38 PM
98 points
27 comments6 min readLW link1 review

For Bet­ter Com­ment­ing, Stop Out Loud

DirectedEvolutionJul 28, 2022, 1:39 AM
18 points
30 comments1 min readLW link

The Con­ver­sa­tions We Make Space For

Severin T. SeehrichJul 28, 2022, 9:37 PM
21 points
0 comments3 min readLW link

Ex­pected (So­cial) Value

algrthmsAug 7, 2022, 8:16 AM
5 points
2 comments3 min readLW link

Re­view: Amus­ing Our­selves to Death

L Rudolf LAug 20, 2022, 9:13 PM
44 points
7 comments16 min readLW link1 review
(www.strataoftheworld.com)

Meme Dialects

jefftkNov 23, 2022, 9:30 PM
26 points
1 comment2 min readLW link
(www.jefftk.com)

[Question] Should we be kind and po­lite to emerg­ing AIs?

David GrossFeb 17, 2023, 4:58 PM
9 points
13 comments1 min readLW link

Mak­ing Im­plied Stan­dards Explicit

Logan RiggsFeb 25, 2023, 8:02 PM
22 points
0 comments4 min readLW link

Par­a­sitic Lan­guage Games: main­tain­ing am­bi­guity to hide con­flict while burn­ing the commons

HazardMar 12, 2023, 5:25 AM
115 points
17 comments13 min readLW link

“Pub­lish or Per­ish” (a quick note on why you should try to make your work leg­ible to ex­ist­ing aca­demic com­mu­ni­ties)

David Scott Krueger (formerly: capybaralet)Mar 18, 2023, 7:01 PM
112 points
49 comments1 min readLW link1 review

Com­bat vs Nur­ture & Meta-Contrarianism

abramdemskiJan 10, 2019, 11:17 PM
66 points
12 comments4 min readLW link

So­cially Grace­ful Degradation

ScrewtapeMar 20, 2025, 4:03 AM
57 points
9 comments9 min readLW link

Your Com­mu­ni­ca­tion Prefer­ences Aren’t Law

Jonathan MoregårdMar 12, 2025, 5:20 PM
25 points
4 comments1 min readLW link
(honestliving.substack.com)

Effec­tively Com­mu­ni­cat­ing with DC Policymakers

PolicyTakesMar 17, 2025, 10:11 PM
14 points
0 comments2 min readLW link

Choos­ing the right ask for a context

ChristianKlDec 28, 2020, 2:58 PM
14 points
6 comments2 min readLW link

[Question] Jour­nal­ism stu­dent look­ing for sources

pinkertonFeb 4, 2025, 6:58 PM
11 points
3 comments1 min readLW link

When you down­vote, ex­plain why

KvmanThinkingFeb 7, 2025, 1:03 AM
4 points
31 comments1 min readLW link

Some re­flec­tions on the LW com­mu­nity af­ter sev­eral months of ac­tive engagement

M. Y. ZuoJun 25, 2022, 5:04 PM
72 points
40 comments4 min readLW link

Do­ing dis­course bet­ter: Stuff I wish I knew

dynomightSep 29, 2020, 2:34 PM
27 points
11 comments1 min readLW link
(dyno-might.github.io)

Con­ver­sa­tion Visualizer

Dec 31, 2023, 1:18 AM
28 points
4 comments5 min readLW link
(210ethan.github.io)

In­verse Prob­lems In Every­day Life

silentbobOct 15, 2024, 11:42 AM
14 points
2 comments8 min readLW link

Please speak unpredictably

dkl9Jul 23, 2023, 10:09 PM
12 points
16 comments1 min readLW link
(dkl9.net)

Reflec­tive Complaints

RaemonMay 21, 2020, 9:11 PM
37 points
20 comments1 min readLW link

When to join a re­spectabil­ity cascade

B JacobsSep 24, 2024, 7:54 AM
10 points
1 comment2 min readLW link
(bobjacobs.substack.com)

The prin­ci­ple of no non-Apologies

agentydragonMay 28, 2020, 7:58 PM
26 points
8 comments2 min readLW link

“You’re the most beau­tiful girl in the world” and Wittgen­stei­nian Lan­guage Games

Chris_LeongApr 20, 2024, 2:54 PM
5 points
18 comments1 min readLW link

[Question] How do you con­cisely com­mu­ni­cate & nav­i­gate the poli­tics /​ cul­ture at your job work­ing at a large cor­po­ra­tion or in­sti­tu­tion?

WillaJul 12, 2022, 3:22 AM
10 points
6 comments1 min readLW link

How Fo­rumMag­num builds com­mu­ni­ties of inquiry

Jim FisherSep 4, 2023, 4:52 PM
33 points
21 comments5 min readLW link

Hon­esty, Open­ness, Trust­wor­thi­ness, and Secrets

NormanPerlmutterMar 6, 2023, 9:03 AM
13 points
0 comments9 min readLW link

Author­i­ties and Amateurs

jefftkMar 25, 2020, 3:40 AM
146 points
30 comments3 min readLW link1 review
(www.jefftk.com)

AI psy­chol­ogy should ground the the­o­ries of AI con­scious­ness and in­form hu­man-AI eth­i­cal in­ter­ac­tion design

Roman LeventovJan 8, 2023, 6:37 AM
20 points
8 comments2 min readLW link

Ou­trage Bonding

Jonathan MoregårdAug 9, 2024, 1:46 PM
63 points
12 comments2 min readLW link
(honestliving.substack.com)

My 1st month at a “neu­ro­di­ver­gent gifted school” called Min­erva University

exanovaOct 10, 2023, 3:34 AM
4 points
1 comment1 min readLW link
(inawe.substack.com)

In­spired by: Failures in Kindness

X4vierJul 27, 2024, 1:21 AM
60 points
2 comments3 min readLW link

How to co­or­di­nate de­spite our bi­ases? - tldr

Ryo Apr 18, 2024, 3:03 PM
3 points
2 comments3 min readLW link
(medium.com)

Log­i­cal Rudeness

Eliezer YudkowskyJan 29, 2010, 6:48 AM
108 points
206 comments4 min readLW link

The Power to Teach Con­cepts Better

LironSep 23, 2019, 12:21 AM
91 points
23 comments8 min readLW link1 review

Hand­shakes, Hi, and What’s New: What’s Go­ing On With Small Talk?

BenquoJan 2, 2014, 10:08 PM
107 points
79 comments5 min readLW link

Bad les­sons learned from the debate

bayesyatinaJun 26, 2024, 11:54 AM
8 points
5 comments6 min readLW link

Com­mu­ni­ca­tion strate­gies for autism, with examples

stoneflyMay 3, 2023, 5:25 AM
16 points
2 comments7 min readLW link

En­ti­tle­ment, Covert Con­tracts, So­cial Liber­tar­i­anism, and Re­lated Concepts

ozymandiasNov 17, 2017, 7:00 PM
22 points
21 comments7 min readLW link

How to Sup­port Some­one Who is Struggling

David ZellerMar 11, 2023, 6:52 PM
76 points
13 comments5 min readLW link

“Is-Ought” is Fraught

MiSteR KitttyJun 16, 2024, 5:27 PM
−5 points
2 comments1 min readLW link

Mod­ified Guess Culture

konstellAug 30, 2022, 2:30 AM
5 points
5 comments1 min readLW link
(konstell.com)

Com­mu­ni­ca­tion, con­scious­ness, and be­lief strength measures

Jakub SmékalFeb 17, 2024, 5:45 AM
1 point
0 comments3 min readLW link

Guided Men­tal Change Re­quires High Trust

namespaceOct 27, 2017, 7:15 PM
18 points
2 comments5 min readLW link

The De­sired Response

squidiousJan 20, 2018, 10:01 PM
17 points
5 comments2 min readLW link

Maps vs But­tons; Nerds vs Normies

Bound_upDec 28, 2017, 9:11 PM
24 points
23 comments6 min readLW link

Small Com­ment on Or­gani­sa­tional Disclaimers

Ben PaceMar 29, 2020, 5:07 PM
29 points
0 comments4 min readLW link

Against Love Languages

Ben PaceDec 29, 2017, 9:51 AM
19 points
9 comments2 min readLW link

Re­search Depri­ori­tiz­ing Ex­ter­nal Communication

jefftkOct 6, 2022, 12:20 PM
34 points
3 comments8 min readLW link
(www.jefftk.com)

Click­bait Soapboxing

DaystarEldMar 13, 2024, 2:09 PM
24 points
15 comments3 min readLW link
(daystareld.com)

[Question] Is the mean­ing of words cho­sen/​in­ter­preted to max­i­mize cor­re­la­tions with other rele­vant queries?

tailcalledOct 20, 2022, 10:03 AM
9 points
9 comments1 min readLW link

Leav­ing Orbit

Rob BensingerDec 6, 2021, 9:48 PM
50 points
17 comments1 min readLW link

acronyms ftw

EmrikOct 21, 2022, 1:36 PM
−2 points
5 comments2 min readLW link

Just the facts, ma’am!

lukeprogDec 10, 2011, 10:54 PM
70 points
18 comments1 min readLW link

Three Axes of Prohibitions

daenerysFeb 15, 2013, 7:34 AM
47 points
11 comments2 min readLW link

Avoid­ing meta­physics means giv­ing bad philos­o­phy a free pass

AdityaJun 16, 2023, 8:54 PM
5 points
9 comments4 min readLW link

Re­mem­ber to trans­late your thoughts back again

brookNov 1, 2022, 8:49 AM
25 points
11 comments3 min readLW link
(forum.effectivealtruism.org)

Ten Modes of Cul­ture War Discourse

jchanJan 31, 2024, 1:58 PM
54 points
15 comments15 min readLW link

Model, Care, Execution

Jun 26, 2023, 4:05 AM
111 points
10 comments12 min readLW link1 review
(bayesshammai.substack.com)

re­flec­tions on smileys and how to make so­ciety’s in­ter­pre­tive pri­ors more charitable

EmrikMay 7, 2024, 11:20 AM
17 points
0 comments1 min readLW link
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