This seemed to me like a long way of saying that “many people believe that they can control others when they can’t”. I want to know what the OP thinks of this.
(And also the belief “you can’t make yourself like anything”, in the case of the person feeling guilty about unproductiveness.)
Things that still confuse me:
the “Nice Guy” bits do seem not derivable from the above?
This is important to me because it’s central to some rationality research I’m doing currently.
Maybe you already thought of this, but it might be a nice project for someone to take the unfinished drafts you’ve published, talk to you, and then clean them up for you. Apprentice/student kind of thing. (I’m not personally interested in this, though.)