As I like to say, ignorance does not excuse a sin, it makes two sins: the original, and the fact you didn’t put in the effort to know better. So, if you really do just possess a better method of communication—for example, you prefer talking disagreements out over killing each other—you’re completely justified in flexing superior on the clueless outsiders. This doesn’t mean it will always be effective, just that you’re not breaking the “cooperate unless defected against” strategy, and the rest of rational society shouldn’t punish you for it.
Well, killing each other to resolve arguments does seem like the kind of thing I would frown upon (unless the killers seem to dislike other people frowning at them)
This post is targeted more towards people picking up things like Nonviolent communication (which I think can be great*) and ending up angry at their parents/friends for not being skilled.
When someone new to nvc ends up judging non-practitioners, focusing more on failures than understanding, then they’re shooting themselves in the foot.
Even if you want to convert everyone, I would argue that irritation & correcting others aren’t an optimal way to drive adoption.
As I like to say, ignorance does not excuse a sin, it makes two sins: the original, and the fact you didn’t put in the effort to know better. So, if you really do just possess a better method of communication—for example, you prefer talking disagreements out over killing each other—you’re completely justified in flexing superior on the clueless outsiders. This doesn’t mean it will always be effective, just that you’re not breaking the “cooperate unless defected against” strategy, and the rest of rational society shouldn’t punish you for it.
Well, killing each other to resolve arguments does seem like the kind of thing I would frown upon (unless the killers seem to dislike other people frowning at them)
This post is targeted more towards people picking up things like Nonviolent communication (which I think can be great*) and ending up angry at their parents/friends for not being skilled.
When someone new to nvc ends up judging non-practitioners, focusing more on failures than understanding, then they’re shooting themselves in the foot.
Even if you want to convert everyone, I would argue that irritation & correcting others aren’t an optimal way to drive adoption.
*) more info here: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/PCrTQDbciG4oLgmQ5/sapir-whorf-for-rationalists