I think much of the difficulty comes from the fact that past systems-of-the-world, the unexamined normalcies that functioned only in silence, were de facto authored by evolution, so they were haphazard patchworks that worked, but without object level understanding, which makes them particualrly tricky to replace.
Take ancient fermentation rituals. They very well may break down when a child asks “why do we have to bury the fish?” or “why bury it this long?” or “why do we have to let it sit for 4 months now?”
The elder doesn’t know the answer. All he knows is that, if you don’t follow these steps, people who eat the fish get sick and die.
Going from that system, to the better system involving chemistry and the germ theory of disease, is a massive step, and unfortunately, there’s a large gap between realizing your elder has no idea what’s going on, and figuring out the chemical process behind fermentation.
We’re suffering in this gap right now, unwinding many similar unexamaned normalcies that were authored by cultural evolution, which we don’t yet have comprehensive models to replace. Marriage and monogomy are a good example. After birth control, that system started quickly collapsing when the first child asked “why” and no adults could give a good answer, yet we still don’t have anything close to a unified theory of human mating, relationships, and child-rearing that’s better.
The tough part of building new neutral common sense is that, in so many cases right now, we don’t actually know the right answer, all we know is that the old cultural wisdom is at best incomplete, and at worst totally anachronistic.
Social media was essentially like 3 billion kids asking “why” all at once, about a mostly-still-patchwork system mostly authored by evolution, so it’s no real surprise it fell apart. Despite those whys being justified, replacing something evolution has created with a gears level comprehensive model is really, really hard.
Worthy task, of course, but I think fundamentally more complex than the manner by which the original systems were created.
Agreed, and we have well-meaning conservatives like Ben Shapiro taking marriage and monogamy as almost an unfalsifiable good, and then using it as a starting point for their entire political philosophy. Maybe he’s right, but I wish realistic post-birth-control norms were actually part of the overton window.