Books (edited to include reasons)
Perfect Health Diet (dense, persuasive, hundreds of citations)
How to Fail at Almost Everything And Still Win Big (its very rational seeming for a self help book, his systems approach is interesting, the book includes some counter arguments to common memes (like questioning the direction of causality in the whole passion/success thing), he mentions other research and memes that will sound familiar to anyone who reads lukeprog self help posts, he assumes he and the readers are moist robots, it’s self skeptical and cautious about naively assuming he knows why something seems to work)
Podcasts:
Zen Habits, Tim Ferriss Experiment, Conversations From the Pale Blue Dot
You might also find it worthwhile to search youtube for Ted Talks, lectures, interviews etc, and rip out their audio. If there is a popular book there is often a shorter free video of the author explaining and summarizing its basic gist.
t;dr how do you cope with death?
My dog has cancer in his liver and spleen, and learning this has strongly exacerbated some kind of predisposition towards being vulnerable to depression. He’s an old dog so it probably wouldn’t have changed his life expectancy THAT much, but it’s still really sad. If you’re not a pet person this might be counterintuitive, but to me it’s losing a friend, and the things people say to me are mostly unhelpful. Which is why I’m posting it here specifically: the typical coping memes about doggy heaven or death as some profoundly important part of Nature are ruined for me. So I wanted to ask how people here deal with this sort of thing. Especially on the cognitive end of things, what types of frames and self talk you used. I do already know the basics, like exercise and diet and meditation, but I sure wouldn’t mind a new insight on getting myself to actually do that stuff when I’m this down.
I’ve thought about cryopreserving him, but even if that were a good way to use the money I just don’t think I can afford it. All I’ll have is an increasingly vague and emotionally distant memory, I guess, and it sucks. I’ve been regretting not valuing him more during his peak health, as well, although maybe I’d always feel guilty for anything short of having been perfect.
I’ve been thinking a lot about chapter 12 of HPMOR, and trying play with and video and pamper him while I can. I don’t want to say “fuck, it’s too late” about anything else. It’s the best thing I can think of right now.