Most of the moral dilemmas I face in real life I’ve never read about in ethics or philosophy classes. Most of my real world experiences are more along the lines of decision theory/prisoner’s dilemmas.
So for example, if someone has wronged me, what does moral philosophy say I should do? I’m not sure because I don’t really know where to look or even if this question has been answered; to my knowledge it’s never been addressed in any philosophy or ethics undergrad courses I took.
But from a prisoner’s dilemma point of view, I have to juggle whether I should cooperate (let it slide) or defect (retaliate). If I let it slide, then I might be sending the signal that I’m a cooperate bot and future agents will think they can take advantage of me. But if I retaliate, then this might descend into an infinite loop of defect bot behavior. And from either of those nodes, I have to take into account the degree to which I cooperate or defect.
Being a man greatly reduces reproductive fitness, compared to the reproductive success of women. E.g., at age 12, for example, the death rate for boys is 46 percent higher than the rate for girls. And there are probably other factors that add to less reproductive success among males besides death. Being both gay and male doesn’t seem like that much of a difference.