This feels closely related to Alexithymia or emotion blindness
Extremely common in: people with ADHD / Autism (potentially over half)
Fairly common in: people who have PTSD, people with substance abuse issues (possibly causal, alexithymia → drugs to feel something), and men (male-normative alexithymia)
People with alexithymia often identify their emotions primarily through physical sensations
For me (a male with autism, ADHD and PTSD) I can tell I’m feeling scared or anxious if my legs get cold (I believe this is a common form)
Reminds me of how a few years ago I realized that I don’t feel some forms of stress but can infer I’m stressed by noticing reduction in my nonverbal communication.
This FULLY explains my experience with panic attacks. I occasionally get all the physical symptoms, think something like “Huh, my heart is racing and it feels like air doesn’t work. I wonder why?”. I monitor my breathing and pulse for a while to make sure I haven’t forgotten how to automatically-alive or something, and (since it’s never been a heart attack before) go on with my day.
Would have been nice to know in elementary school when attempting to describe my experience with emotions (I thought I didn’t have any) got me treated for depression for a year.
I have a beef with the theory of male-normative alexithymia; it does not distinguish well between hiding emotion, and outright not feeling an emotion.
Plenty of emotions are not innate but externally induced through social pressure and culture. It is perfectly plausible and normal for a man to not have particular feelings about X, until society repeatedly insists that X is Bad or Good, and the man should feel badness or goodness to conform.
For example, the feelings of sexual jealousy, and of grieving after someone’s death seem to be extremely culture specific, in a way that is easier to explain if these emotions were induced by ritualistic actions and only then internalized, and not the reverse.
This feels closely related to Alexithymia or emotion blindness
Extremely common in: people with ADHD / Autism (potentially over half)
Fairly common in: people who have PTSD, people with substance abuse issues (possibly causal, alexithymia → drugs to feel something), and men (male-normative alexithymia)
People with alexithymia often identify their emotions primarily through physical sensations
For me (a male with autism, ADHD and PTSD) I can tell I’m feeling scared or anxious if my legs get cold (I believe this is a common form)
Reminds me of how a few years ago I realized that I don’t feel some forms of stress but can infer I’m stressed by noticing reduction in my nonverbal communication.
This FULLY explains my experience with panic attacks. I occasionally get all the physical symptoms, think something like “Huh, my heart is racing and it feels like air doesn’t work. I wonder why?”. I monitor my breathing and pulse for a while to make sure I haven’t forgotten how to automatically-alive or something, and (since it’s never been a heart attack before) go on with my day.
Would have been nice to know in elementary school when attempting to describe my experience with emotions (I thought I didn’t have any) got me treated for depression for a year.
I have a beef with the theory of male-normative alexithymia; it does not distinguish well between hiding emotion, and outright not feeling an emotion.
Plenty of emotions are not innate but externally induced through social pressure and culture. It is perfectly plausible and normal for a man to not have particular feelings about X, until society repeatedly insists that X is Bad or Good, and the man should feel badness or goodness to conform.
For example, the feelings of sexual jealousy, and of grieving after someone’s death seem to be extremely culture specific, in a way that is easier to explain if these emotions were induced by ritualistic actions and only then internalized, and not the reverse.
Oh yeah. How do I know I’m angry? My back is stiff and starts to hurt.