Hmm, does your response change if they’re housemates or something like that?
I agree there’d be no controversy about Alice deciding not to hire Bob because he doesn’t meet her standards, and I think there’d be little controversy over some org deciding to hire Bob over Alice because he’s more likeable. But, if it makes the post work better for you, you can totally pretend that instead of talking about membership in “the rationalist community”, they’re talking about “membership in the Greater Springfield Rationalist Book Club that meets on Tuesdays in Alice and Bob’s group house”. I think Alice kicking Bob out of that would be much more contentious and controversial!
Part of my response is “this is very context-dependent”, and that is overwhelmingly true for a group house or book club. Alice can, of course, leave either one if she feels Bob is ruining her experience. She may or may not convince others to kick Bob out if he doesn’t shape up, depending on the style of group and charter for formal ownership of the house.
She’d be far better off, in either case, being specific about what she wants Bob to do differently, rather than just saying “work harder”.
Hmm, does your response change if they’re housemates or something like that?
I agree there’d be no controversy about Alice deciding not to hire Bob because he doesn’t meet her standards, and I think there’d be little controversy over some org deciding to hire Bob over Alice because he’s more likeable. But, if it makes the post work better for you, you can totally pretend that instead of talking about membership in “the rationalist community”, they’re talking about “membership in the Greater Springfield Rationalist Book Club that meets on Tuesdays in Alice and Bob’s group house”. I think Alice kicking Bob out of that would be much more contentious and controversial!
Part of my response is “this is very context-dependent”, and that is overwhelmingly true for a group house or book club. Alice can, of course, leave either one if she feels Bob is ruining her experience. She may or may not convince others to kick Bob out if he doesn’t shape up, depending on the style of group and charter for formal ownership of the house.
She’d be far better off, in either case, being specific about what she wants Bob to do differently, rather than just saying “work harder”.