Had he approached Padma in a friendly manner, putting himself on equal footing (instead of trying to teach and impress!), and then told her pretty much the same things he ghost-whispered, it would still have likely redeemed her, except he also would have gained a precious friend and possibly ally (and Hermione’s respect). Interestingly, he would also have been following both Quirrell and Flitwick’s advice in doing so.
But in any case: “Self-centredness”, combined with its cousin Arrogance, is the main flaw that keeps Harry from being a Mary Sue, that keeps him making enough mistakes to allow the story to be unpredictable rather than Harry Steamrolls Everyone (steamroller stories are occasionally fun, but seldom for long). The time, if any, for him to solve that flaw should normally be the final part of the story arc.
FYI: Version 1 of Ch. 50 had Harry approaching Padma directly… and having to be considerably more threatening in order to have a smaller impact on her, which is what got him in trouble with Hermione in the original version.
Version 2 won out over Version 1 because it was weirder, and therefore more awesome; and also because it got him into less trouble with Hermione—I didn’t like having her be quite so clearly in the right in Version 1, i.e., so right that even Harry would notice. It had to end on a note of ambiguity from Harry’s perspective.
The thing a reader suggested that I’m embarrassed not to have thought of as an option was that Harry should have gotten a teacher Padma respected to do it. But then Harry would not have thought of this over an even longer time period than I didn’t. And it probably still wouldn’t have worked as well as the ghost, on a purely individual level for Padma, simply because Mysterious Visitations are supposed to be Life-Changing Events and having a teacher talk to you isn’t.
Had he approached Padma in a friendly manner, putting himself on equal footing (instead of trying to teach and impress!), and then told her pretty much the same things he ghost-whispered, it would still have likely redeemed her,
Personally, I disagree. When I imagine Harry approaching Padma with such a strategy, I see Padma reacting to his attempt to understand her with revulsion and self-justifying lies to minimize cognitive dissonance, thereby pushing her even further from being able to admit to herself the truth of what he says.
The ghost gambit works because, like an anonymous comment, she can’t employ a cached thought like ‘everything Harry says is evil and intended to manipulate me and false’ and reject it out of hand, and she is rendered weak and uncertain in a way independent of Harry. Nor can she overrule her cognitive dissonance by focusing anger on Harry for manipulating her—because she has very strong evidence that it isn’t Harry manipulating her.*
But perhaps I am too cynical.
* Yes, we know that Harry did it and that he obviously did it because of his invisibility cloak. But she doesn’t know about the cloak, and given the enormous unlikelihood of Harry having such a cloak and a Time-turner, I don’t think she is wrong to conclude it wasn’t Harry.
Had he approached Padma in a friendly manner, putting himself on equal footing (instead of trying to teach and impress!), and then told her pretty much the same things he ghost-whispered, it would still have likely redeemed her, except he also would have gained a precious friend and possibly ally (and Hermione’s respect).
The may be ok advice and perhaps worth a shot. It may even work—in a fantasy story. But real people tend to have better (or, rather, stronger) social and psychological boundaries—it is actually hard to exact fundamental personal change from people just by approaching them in a friendly manner. And giving unsolicited brutally personal advice to people actually isn’t a reliable way to gain friends.
Interestingly, he would also have been following both Quirrell and Flitwick’s advice in doing so.
Not Quirrel’s. Not like that. Quirrel’s advice pertained to an entirely different sort of influence than what you and Flitwick suggest. With Quirrel’s Slytherin-typical strategy you influence by controlling the political, reputational payoffs. Direct heart-to-hearts are completely opposed to the spirit of it.
I also suggest that “self-centredness” is not the relevant flaw of Harry’s here. This is actually a situation where more self-centredness would have prevented the err (such as it was). Harry has blurry boundaries on just what he is optimising for. Is he optimising for his self, is he optimising for blades of sentient grass or is he optimising for what Hermione might call “her own business”? People don’t tend to like it when you act to control things that they don’t perceive to be ‘yours’ - even if, as in this case, it is a benefit to all concerned. A self-centred Harry would have made entirely different mistakes to boundariless-Harry.
Had he approached Padma in a friendly manner, putting himself on equal footing (instead of trying to teach and impress!), and then told her pretty much the same things he ghost-whispered, it would still have likely redeemed her, except he also would have gained a precious friend and possibly ally (and Hermione’s respect). Interestingly, he would also have been following both Quirrell and Flitwick’s advice in doing so.
But in any case: “Self-centredness”, combined with its cousin Arrogance, is the main flaw that keeps Harry from being a Mary Sue, that keeps him making enough mistakes to allow the story to be unpredictable rather than Harry Steamrolls Everyone (steamroller stories are occasionally fun, but seldom for long). The time, if any, for him to solve that flaw should normally be the final part of the story arc.
FYI: Version 1 of Ch. 50 had Harry approaching Padma directly… and having to be considerably more threatening in order to have a smaller impact on her, which is what got him in trouble with Hermione in the original version.
Version 2 won out over Version 1 because it was weirder, and therefore more awesome; and also because it got him into less trouble with Hermione—I didn’t like having her be quite so clearly in the right in Version 1, i.e., so right that even Harry would notice. It had to end on a note of ambiguity from Harry’s perspective.
The thing a reader suggested that I’m embarrassed not to have thought of as an option was that Harry should have gotten a teacher Padma respected to do it. But then Harry would not have thought of this over an even longer time period than I didn’t. And it probably still wouldn’t have worked as well as the ghost, on a purely individual level for Padma, simply because Mysterious Visitations are supposed to be Life-Changing Events and having a teacher talk to you isn’t.
Personally, I disagree. When I imagine Harry approaching Padma with such a strategy, I see Padma reacting to his attempt to understand her with revulsion and self-justifying lies to minimize cognitive dissonance, thereby pushing her even further from being able to admit to herself the truth of what he says.
The ghost gambit works because, like an anonymous comment, she can’t employ a cached thought like ‘everything Harry says is evil and intended to manipulate me and false’ and reject it out of hand, and she is rendered weak and uncertain in a way independent of Harry. Nor can she overrule her cognitive dissonance by focusing anger on Harry for manipulating her—because she has very strong evidence that it isn’t Harry manipulating her.*
But perhaps I am too cynical.
* Yes, we know that Harry did it and that he obviously did it because of his invisibility cloak. But she doesn’t know about the cloak, and given the enormous unlikelihood of Harry having such a cloak and a Time-turner, I don’t think she is wrong to conclude it wasn’t Harry.
Ahh, I hadn’t read this when I replied to the message in my inbox. But I absolutely agree.
The may be ok advice and perhaps worth a shot. It may even work—in a fantasy story. But real people tend to have better (or, rather, stronger) social and psychological boundaries—it is actually hard to exact fundamental personal change from people just by approaching them in a friendly manner. And giving unsolicited brutally personal advice to people actually isn’t a reliable way to gain friends.
Not Quirrel’s. Not like that. Quirrel’s advice pertained to an entirely different sort of influence than what you and Flitwick suggest. With Quirrel’s Slytherin-typical strategy you influence by controlling the political, reputational payoffs. Direct heart-to-hearts are completely opposed to the spirit of it.
I also suggest that “self-centredness” is not the relevant flaw of Harry’s here. This is actually a situation where more self-centredness would have prevented the err (such as it was). Harry has blurry boundaries on just what he is optimising for. Is he optimising for his self, is he optimising for blades of sentient grass or is he optimising for what Hermione might call “her own business”? People don’t tend to like it when you act to control things that they don’t perceive to be ‘yours’ - even if, as in this case, it is a benefit to all concerned. A self-centred Harry would have made entirely different mistakes to boundariless-Harry.
It is also—outside fiction—not a reliable way to get people to follow that advice.
Neither is offering friendly advice. Or, for that matter, advice of any sort, however delivered.