I get the sense that your profile content doesn’t do you justice—perhaps you could afford to be more arrogant? No one you want to meet would find you boring.
I like most of your pictures, but I would include a few where you look more friendly and approachable, eg. pictures of you at work.
That’s a brilliant piece of advice about the attitude to take when profile-writing. Don’t worry about looking good to people you aren’t interested in! It doesn’t matter what they think!
I would include a few where you look more friendly and approachable, eg. pictures of you at work.
Given the potential objections below about Yvain’s work photos, a photo of him socializing might also fit the bill. Nothing says “I’m approachable” like “Look! These people clearly approached me, and I didn’t bite them.”
Yvain is a med student. Pictures of him at work might have him wearing a mask and up to his elbows in blood. Which would be interesting, but not approachable ;)
I realise he is a med student, which is why I suggested “at work”. Maybe this is a personal quirk, but people in surgical scrubs exude compassion and approachibility to me. Conversely, pictures of people at work in an office setting usually seem impersonal and/or trite to me.
My dad (a doctor, although he doesn’t practice as a physician and does consulting instead) wears scrubs as pajamas, so I don’t trust my intuitions about what they mean one bit.
1) I don’t want to alarm you, but there’s a tiger next to you.
2) I second the comments about your pictures. Get someone with a real camera to take some for you, smile when they do it, and then crop/balance them.
3) You made me giggle a few times; points for that.
4) I do too message men!
5) You get to goad the reader into asking you out and still have it sound like a joke exactly once. The second time it’s desperate. (You do it once in the “message me if” and once in a photo caption.)
2) I am mostly using those pictures to signal that I do interesting things; generally, the more interesting the thing I am doing, the less likely I have a good photo of it (eg when trekking in mountains I became unshaven and poorly groomed and hideous and can only take pictures by holding the camera in front of my face). I’m not really sure how to fix that. Should I get rid of all my interesting pictures?
5) Meh, good point.
I’m from Orange County, but haven’t lived there in a while.
I figured that signaling that I do interesting things was worth me almost always being poorly groomed when I do them, and that people would generally understand that grooming takes second place when you’re trekking. Do you think not?
Ah, sure. People (especially women), give me what help you can: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/ScottAlexander
I get the sense that your profile content doesn’t do you justice—perhaps you could afford to be more arrogant? No one you want to meet would find you boring.
I like most of your pictures, but I would include a few where you look more friendly and approachable, eg. pictures of you at work.
That’s a brilliant piece of advice about the attitude to take when profile-writing. Don’t worry about looking good to people you aren’t interested in! It doesn’t matter what they think!
Given the potential objections below about Yvain’s work photos, a photo of him socializing might also fit the bill. Nothing says “I’m approachable” like “Look! These people clearly approached me, and I didn’t bite them.”
Yvain is a med student. Pictures of him at work might have him wearing a mask and up to his elbows in blood. Which would be interesting, but not approachable ;)
I realise he is a med student, which is why I suggested “at work”. Maybe this is a personal quirk, but people in surgical scrubs exude compassion and approachibility to me. Conversely, pictures of people at work in an office setting usually seem impersonal and/or trite to me.
My dad (a doctor, although he doesn’t practice as a physician and does consulting instead) wears scrubs as pajamas, so I don’t trust my intuitions about what they mean one bit.
1) I don’t want to alarm you, but there’s a tiger next to you.
2) I second the comments about your pictures. Get someone with a real camera to take some for you, smile when they do it, and then crop/balance them.
3) You made me giggle a few times; points for that.
4) I do too message men!
5) You get to goad the reader into asking you out and still have it sound like a joke exactly once. The second time it’s desperate. (You do it once in the “message me if” and once in a photo caption.)
Where in CA are you from? :)
2) I am mostly using those pictures to signal that I do interesting things; generally, the more interesting the thing I am doing, the less likely I have a good photo of it (eg when trekking in mountains I became unshaven and poorly groomed and hideous and can only take pictures by holding the camera in front of my face). I’m not really sure how to fix that. Should I get rid of all my interesting pictures?
5) Meh, good point.
I’m from Orange County, but haven’t lived there in a while.
Nah, you could just supplement them with tidier ones.
Perhaps I am alone in this, but the 2nd/middle picture looks terrible—as if you hadn’t washed or shaved your head in a week.
I figured that signaling that I do interesting things was worth me almost always being poorly groomed when I do them, and that people would generally understand that grooming takes second place when you’re trekking. Do you think not?
I think the blurriness of your pictures makes you look less attractive. There was an OK Trends blog about this: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/dont-be-ugly-by-accident/
I like it. I like the humor, I like the varied skills and interests.
Really like your “you should message me if” section. I would word it a bit differently, but definitely intriguing.
So the picture with the tiger is really you!