I think people learn to regulate themselves when they realize how self-defeating this is.
What is “this”?
I was thinking about removing the comment because it wasn’t clear to me what you were referring to. I think having strong feelings for other people while ignoring how they feel about you is generally a waste of resources.
In what sense is it a waste of resources? What value are you optimizing for, that you are being wasteful?
I value the love (romantic or otherwise) of another for its own sake.
What is “this”?
I was thinking about removing the comment because it wasn’t clear to me what you were referring to. I think having strong feelings for other people while ignoring how they feel about you is generally a waste of resources.
In what sense is it a waste of resources? What value are you optimizing for, that you are being wasteful?
I value the love (romantic or otherwise) of another for its own sake.