Saying that you “know” someone is imprecise. What do you know about them?
Here’s a slightly arbitrary heptachotomy of information that could count as knowledge of a person:
trivially-recorded data, like their name, age, or location
their interests, hobbies, or occupation
their values, principles, or goals
their relations to other people
experience-based patterns in their speech or behaviour
their backstory
their skills and thinking style
If you meet and befriend someone in person, you’ll likely learn about them in all those ways. But you could easily neglect to learn any one of those dimensions for a long time, except the fifth.
Other ways of meeting people (or “meeting” people) are less balanced.
Method
Information types
Reading a website they made, like mine
2, 3, 7
Long-running pseudonymous chats (as on IRC)
2, 4, 5, 7
Stalking
1, 2, 4, sometimes 5, 6
Wikipedia
1, 2, 6, sometimes 3, 4
Reviewing their uni application
1, 2, 3, 6, 7
Watching their technical lectures
2, 5, 7
You may assume that knowing someone in one sense suggests similar knowledge of the same person in other senses. This is only usually true for those associating in person. Modern technology completely breaks that intuitive correlation.
Senses of “knowing” a person
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Saying that you “know” someone is imprecise. What do you know about them?
Here’s a slightly arbitrary heptachotomy of information that could count as knowledge of a person:
trivially-recorded data, like their name, age, or location
their interests, hobbies, or occupation
their values, principles, or goals
their relations to other people
experience-based patterns in their speech or behaviour
their backstory
their skills and thinking style
If you meet and befriend someone in person, you’ll likely learn about them in all those ways. But you could easily neglect to learn any one of those dimensions for a long time, except the fifth.
Other ways of meeting people (or “meeting” people) are less balanced.
You may assume that knowing someone in one sense suggests similar knowledge of the same person in other senses. This is only usually true for those associating in person. Modern technology completely breaks that intuitive correlation.