Until the child tells you their gender identity, don’t assume it matches their body
learn the standard ways that parents treat children differently by gender (assuming girls are upset where they’d assume boys are angry, for example) and proactively refuse to do, or permit them done by other adults.
I also disagree with the first paragraph. If I have a daughter someday, I’m not going to treat her as gender-neutral-it’s too much work and probably wouldn’t work. I guess I just think that the examples in the second group aren’t “gender identity” examples. At most they’re gender stereotypes. I will treat my daughter as a girl, unless she tells me not to, but I’ll happily climb trees with her, I wouldn’t tell her to be polite because “girls are polite” (boys should be too!) and I won’t encourage or expect her to be upset rather than angry.
This is what I was criticizing:
I also disagree with the first paragraph. If I have a daughter someday, I’m not going to treat her as gender-neutral-it’s too much work and probably wouldn’t work. I guess I just think that the examples in the second group aren’t “gender identity” examples. At most they’re gender stereotypes. I will treat my daughter as a girl, unless she tells me not to, but I’ll happily climb trees with her, I wouldn’t tell her to be polite because “girls are polite” (boys should be too!) and I won’t encourage or expect her to be upset rather than angry.