In my experience, “people” are a force in aggregate, far more than individuals. So even if YOU, in particular, “haven’t had time for social-web stuff to kick in”, they’re carrying with them all their aliefs and assumptions from other people, which you yourself pick up on and mirror because preselection is totally a thing.
Fair. Although it also seems like “my” corner of the social web *also* have force (on me) beyond the force I’d expect it to have on them-that-I-pick-up-on. (i.e. if someone shows up and acts needy who I never met before, I’d expect to have a less strong cringe reaction than someone I’ve had time to build up a model/relationship/web of)
(And to be clear, I do think your ultimate call to action of “notice when your S1 and S2 reactions are out of sync, and you have reason to trust your S2 over S1, and treat a person as if they have made it through the valley that your S1 is reacting against” is worthwhile. I’ve found occasion to do it)
In my experience, “people” are a force in aggregate, far more than individuals. So even if YOU, in particular, “haven’t had time for social-web stuff to kick in”, they’re carrying with them all their aliefs and assumptions from other people, which you yourself pick up on and mirror because preselection is totally a thing.
Fair. Although it also seems like “my” corner of the social web *also* have force (on me) beyond the force I’d expect it to have on them-that-I-pick-up-on. (i.e. if someone shows up and acts needy who I never met before, I’d expect to have a less strong cringe reaction than someone I’ve had time to build up a model/relationship/web of)
(And to be clear, I do think your ultimate call to action of “notice when your S1 and S2 reactions are out of sync, and you have reason to trust your S2 over S1, and treat a person as if they have made it through the valley that your S1 is reacting against” is worthwhile. I’ve found occasion to do it)