Fair. Although it also seems like “my” corner of the social web *also* have force (on me) beyond the force I’d expect it to have on them-that-I-pick-up-on. (i.e. if someone shows up and acts needy who I never met before, I’d expect to have a less strong cringe reaction than someone I’ve had time to build up a model/relationship/web of)
(And to be clear, I do think your ultimate call to action of “notice when your S1 and S2 reactions are out of sync, and you have reason to trust your S2 over S1, and treat a person as if they have made it through the valley that your S1 is reacting against” is worthwhile. I’ve found occasion to do it)
Fair. Although it also seems like “my” corner of the social web *also* have force (on me) beyond the force I’d expect it to have on them-that-I-pick-up-on. (i.e. if someone shows up and acts needy who I never met before, I’d expect to have a less strong cringe reaction than someone I’ve had time to build up a model/relationship/web of)
(And to be clear, I do think your ultimate call to action of “notice when your S1 and S2 reactions are out of sync, and you have reason to trust your S2 over S1, and treat a person as if they have made it through the valley that your S1 is reacting against” is worthwhile. I’ve found occasion to do it)