What pinged is that these don’t register to me as probing questions at all! These seem like normal attempts to learn about someone by asking about what is, for most people, a very large part of their life: work.
Partially I began to agree after the shift, partially I guess there’s more context that I haven’t been able to communicate through text.
To me these still read like defensive, insecure answers
What might say if you felt like that in that situation?
> To me these still read like defensive, insecure answers
What might say if you felt like that in that situation?
It’s tough to say without more context, but if I really felt like I couldn’t say much, I’d probably at least give a “nothing burger” answer like “oh, I was ready for something else” or “we got along as best we could”. This might feel like the same thing but the vibes of it are different. A polite avoidance of the question while still engaging with it rather than a more direct shut down.
But of course in most cases I’d probably say more because it would be safe to, up to whatever seemed like a reasonable amount of information to disclose under the circumstances.
Partially I began to agree after the shift, partially I guess there’s more context that I haven’t been able to communicate through text.
What might say if you felt like that in that situation?
Thanks for commenting, I’m not concerned
It’s tough to say without more context, but if I really felt like I couldn’t say much, I’d probably at least give a “nothing burger” answer like “oh, I was ready for something else” or “we got along as best we could”. This might feel like the same thing but the vibes of it are different. A polite avoidance of the question while still engaging with it rather than a more direct shut down.
But of course in most cases I’d probably say more because it would be safe to, up to whatever seemed like a reasonable amount of information to disclose under the circumstances.
That seems more avoidant to me than what I said haha.
Also, I fully expected this person to ask questions for more detail if I had said what you suggest.