I’m unsure about the overall rights and wrongs, but surely this is definitely incorrect: you could e.g. have said “I know whose child it was that was making the noise, and it was definitely not Alicorn’s”.
I think it’s a separate issue: in principle, you could have pretty much any norms about calling out other people’s bad behaviour along with pretty much any norms about how one person gets to find out what another wants. But I’d guess that willingness to make public objections like this correlates with Ask+Tell as opposed to Guess, and probably also with Tell as opposed to Ask.
I could be more diplomatic. But I’d still have to name katie for the sake of sparing Alicorn the confusion about her own child-raising.
I’m unsure about the overall rights and wrongs, but surely this is definitely incorrect: you could e.g. have said “I know whose child it was that was making the noise, and it was definitely not Alicorn’s”.
I wonder where this form of communication lands in Ask, Tell, or Guess Culture?
I think it’s a separate issue: in principle, you could have pretty much any norms about calling out other people’s bad behaviour along with pretty much any norms about how one person gets to find out what another wants. But I’d guess that willingness to make public objections like this correlates with Ask+Tell as opposed to Guess, and probably also with Tell as opposed to Ask.