why I am viscerally bothered by the stag hunt metaphor (tldr; afaict actually deciding what to hunt happens by talking to people, not by making decisions in private)
how I have some pretty strong reaction I’d ideally like to unpack more along the lines of “the thing lw is missing according to me is empathy/paraphrasing”
why I’m usually not really that into written communication (though over the past few years I’ve tweeted a decent amount, so that’s an interesting exception or something)
ETA: oh, and I’m still not over having a whole thing up for me about this: https://twitter.com/diviacaroline/status/1151365255127293952?s=20 (where I have a chip on my shoulder about something in the space of people using language about what they feel vs what they think in a way that doesn’t accord with my own/NVC’s sense of that distinction)
re: the empathy thing, part of my context is that I’ve read a lot of communication books over the years, and it seems fair to me to say that the single most common/most important recommendation for improving discussions that are difficult is to spend more time reflecting what people have already said in various ways. And, afaict, when I’ve done this more, I’ve gotten dramatically better outcomes by my values. Still (despite having been over various versions of this is my head a bajillion times) I notice I’m confused about something in this space. (I also think this point has a lot to do with why I mostly haven’t liked written conversations… not in a very articulate way though.)
Also seems me worth saying that insofar as I think something like this would improve lw conversations, I don’t think there’s anything stopping me from “just” unilaterally doing more of it. Maybe I would do that if I commented on lw? So far I have barely ever commented, so I wouldn’t say I have an excellent predictive model of that. I seem to do it at least some when I write on social media in general.
I have talked to Ray about my objection about the stag hunt framing multiple times, and iirc I haven’t had this conversation with Duncan. Often talking to people about what I think is enough that I mostly let go of it and stop thinking about it, but so far it’s still on my mind.
cached-ish thoughts fleshing out further my allergy to the stag hunt framing
something about how ime irl it’s a yellow flag when I’m confident about wanting a particular social outcome before I have it??? this doesn’t seem quite right, and I think I have a more true longer version but not a more true short version
there’s something about the whole “coordination problem” frame that I react to as though there’s an error already baked in, and I notably don’t have this reaction to people talking about there being a failure of leadership, and moooostly don’t have it when people talk about “cultural problems’
I think my worry with the framing is the unexamined implication that it’s ONLY a coordination problem. In fact, many times it’s an alignment problem—participants expect different payouts/rewards than exactly 1/n of the sum.
Yeah, in some basic sense I totally agree with you, and also I still get the sense that the vectors of coordination and alignment are fundamental missing the point (again, in a way that leadership and culture aren’t really).
Oh, and I think I do have disagreements (or something?) with the longer form stuff people have written about stag hunts/cooperation, but they are some combination of “less of a disagreement” and “harder to pinpoint”, which interests me as a phenomenon in and of itself.
Related to what I said here (https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/G2SQzLnoBnmYhPygE/divia-s-shortform?commentId=wSce6sGx9LLqQGAQ4), I also have a general beef with game theory typically being a misleading abstraction (outside of the context of certain formal games (when they are played by economists??)). I think the most common objection I’ve heard to game theory as a paradigm is that it’s much more common for “games” to be iterated than one-off, but I think maybe my bigger complaint is that it’s quite rare for stuff to be anywhere near as turn-based as the paradigm implies.
That said, I don’t have this sort of objection to decision theory as a paradigm—I basically just like it—and it at least superficially it shares the turn-taking abstraction that I’m objecting to, so I’ll keep trying to clarify what’s up for me.
Something that’s come up for me since our last chat was (starting to) read Elinor Ostrom’s Governance of the Commons, which leans very heavily into “the actual games people are actually playing have very little in common with the simplified games people use as their core metaphors.” Writing a good book review of that is on my list of things to do.
(Elinor’s book is basically a very long, methodical rant at all the people either saying “Tragedy of the commons, therefore, Government Ownership Of Things” or “Tragedy of the commons, therefore, private property rights.”)
And I guess also in real-life situations the menu of options is typically really large instead of small? I don’t actually know if that’s central.
As much as I would like to already have a clean objection, it’s probably more fruitful at this point for me to generally poke around and try to articulate whatever in the general space I have some traction on.
For me, turn-taking isn’t a problem—game theory addresses simultaneous turns as well (including the famous prisoners’ dilemma). My objection is the massive oversimplification into one-dimensional known (or known probability) payouts. Almost every real interaction has highly-variable and diverse impact on both short-term outcome and positioning for future interactions.
it’s much more common for “games” to be iterated than one-off, but I think maybe my bigger complaint is that it’s quite rare for stuff to be anywhere near as turn-based as the paradigm implies.
Iterated games are very common in game theory (especially in LW discussions), and even the most basic games (like prisoner’s dilemma) don’t tend to be turn based. I think you’re critiquing a naive version of game theory, that would indeed deserve your critique if it was the norm, but I don’t think it is. It probably has been at the start, but now I think more realistic assumptions are the norm—like iteration, reputation, mistakes, temporal discounting, diminishing returns, limited information, etc.
As an example, thesethreeposts show some of this complexity applied to prisoner’s dilemma
As another example, this post of mine explains a theory based on a game theoretic model (or “game”), that’s far more complex than the basic games like prisoner’s dilemma. It has 5 types of players, their utility is based on 4 different things, they need to make decisions about multiple things, they need to take future states into account, they have temporal discounting and diminishing returns—and all that gives something that makes lots of very good predictions about politics.
I don’t “want you to acknowledge” anything. You mentioned a few things that bother you with game theory, I responded saying these things are addressed. If that’s interesting/helpful, great, and if not, that’s fine too.
That games like prisoner’s dilemma, coordination games, and other basic games in game theory aren’t turn based, the players makes their decisions simultaneously. The table in the link has a column for whether the game is sequential or not.
I think that’s still “a turn” in some sense. Things still happen in discrete steps (i.e. people make their decision, then reveal their decision), instead of a continuous back-and-forth.
Some things that have been on my mind lately:
why I am viscerally bothered by the stag hunt metaphor (tldr; afaict actually deciding what to hunt happens by talking to people, not by making decisions in private)
how I have some pretty strong reaction I’d ideally like to unpack more along the lines of “the thing lw is missing according to me is empathy/paraphrasing”
why I’m usually not really that into written communication (though over the past few years I’ve tweeted a decent amount, so that’s an interesting exception or something)
ETA: oh, and I’m still not over having a whole thing up for me about this: https://twitter.com/diviacaroline/status/1151365255127293952?s=20 (where I have a chip on my shoulder about something in the space of people using language about what they feel vs what they think in a way that doesn’t accord with my own/NVC’s sense of that distinction)
re: the empathy thing, part of my context is that I’ve read a lot of communication books over the years, and it seems fair to me to say that the single most common/most important recommendation for improving discussions that are difficult is to spend more time reflecting what people have already said in various ways. And, afaict, when I’ve done this more, I’ve gotten dramatically better outcomes by my values. Still (despite having been over various versions of this is my head a bajillion times) I notice I’m confused about something in this space. (I also think this point has a lot to do with why I mostly haven’t liked written conversations… not in a very articulate way though.)
Also seems me worth saying that insofar as I think something like this would improve lw conversations, I don’t think there’s anything stopping me from “just” unilaterally doing more of it. Maybe I would do that if I commented on lw? So far I have barely ever commented, so I wouldn’t say I have an excellent predictive model of that. I seem to do it at least some when I write on social media in general.
I have talked to Ray about my objection about the stag hunt framing multiple times, and iirc I haven’t had this conversation with Duncan. Often talking to people about what I think is enough that I mostly let go of it and stop thinking about it, but so far it’s still on my mind.
cached-ish thoughts fleshing out further my allergy to the stag hunt framing
something about how ime irl it’s a yellow flag when I’m confident about wanting a particular social outcome before I have it??? this doesn’t seem quite right, and I think I have a more true longer version but not a more true short version
there’s something about the whole “coordination problem” frame that I react to as though there’s an error already baked in, and I notably don’t have this reaction to people talking about there being a failure of leadership, and moooostly don’t have it when people talk about “cultural problems’
I think my worry with the framing is the unexamined implication that it’s ONLY a coordination problem. In fact, many times it’s an alignment problem—participants expect different payouts/rewards than exactly 1/n of the sum.
Yeah, in some basic sense I totally agree with you, and also I still get the sense that the vectors of coordination and alignment are fundamental missing the point (again, in a way that leadership and culture aren’t really).
Oh, and I think I do have disagreements (or something?) with the longer form stuff people have written about stag hunts/cooperation, but they are some combination of “less of a disagreement” and “harder to pinpoint”, which interests me as a phenomenon in and of itself.
Related to what I said here (https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/G2SQzLnoBnmYhPygE/divia-s-shortform?commentId=wSce6sGx9LLqQGAQ4), I also have a general beef with game theory typically being a misleading abstraction (outside of the context of certain formal games (when they are played by economists??)). I think the most common objection I’ve heard to game theory as a paradigm is that it’s much more common for “games” to be iterated than one-off, but I think maybe my bigger complaint is that it’s quite rare for stuff to be anywhere near as turn-based as the paradigm implies.
That said, I don’t have this sort of objection to decision theory as a paradigm—I basically just like it—and it at least superficially it shares the turn-taking abstraction that I’m objecting to, so I’ll keep trying to clarify what’s up for me.
Something that’s come up for me since our last chat was (starting to) read Elinor Ostrom’s Governance of the Commons, which leans very heavily into “the actual games people are actually playing have very little in common with the simplified games people use as their core metaphors.” Writing a good book review of that is on my list of things to do.
(Elinor’s book is basically a very long, methodical rant at all the people either saying “Tragedy of the commons, therefore, Government Ownership Of Things” or “Tragedy of the commons, therefore, private property rights.”)
And I guess also in real-life situations the menu of options is typically really large instead of small? I don’t actually know if that’s central.
As much as I would like to already have a clean objection, it’s probably more fruitful at this point for me to generally poke around and try to articulate whatever in the general space I have some traction on.
For me, turn-taking isn’t a problem—game theory addresses simultaneous turns as well (including the famous prisoners’ dilemma). My objection is the massive oversimplification into one-dimensional known (or known probability) payouts. Almost every real interaction has highly-variable and diverse impact on both short-term outcome and positioning for future interactions.
Iterated games are very common in game theory (especially in LW discussions), and even the most basic games (like prisoner’s dilemma) don’t tend to be turn based. I think you’re critiquing a naive version of game theory, that would indeed deserve your critique if it was the norm, but I don’t think it is. It probably has been at the start, but now I think more realistic assumptions are the norm—like iteration, reputation, mistakes, temporal discounting, diminishing returns, limited information, etc.
As an example, these three posts show some of this complexity applied to prisoner’s dilemma
As another example, this post of mine explains a theory based on a game theoretic model (or “game”), that’s far more complex than the basic games like prisoner’s dilemma. It has 5 types of players, their utility is based on 4 different things, they need to make decisions about multiple things, they need to take future states into account, they have temporal discounting and diminishing returns—and all that gives something that makes lots of very good predictions about politics.
Seems like you want me to acknowledge that various people, including on LW, have been doing pretty sophisticated stuff with game theory lately?
I don’t “want you to acknowledge” anything. You mentioned a few things that bother you with game theory, I responded saying these things are addressed. If that’s interesting/helpful, great, and if not, that’s fine too.
What do you mean by “even the most basic games [...] don’t tend to be turn based”?
That games like prisoner’s dilemma, coordination games, and other basic games in game theory aren’t turn based, the players makes their decisions simultaneously. The table in the link has a column for whether the game is sequential or not.
I think that’s still “a turn” in some sense. Things still happen in discrete steps (i.e. people make their decision, then reveal their decision), instead of a continuous back-and-forth.
I have never written anything on my short form and don’t totally understand the interface, so I am starting with this to see how it works
seems to be working :)