Offending people is a necessary and healthy act. Every time you say something that’s offensive to another person, you just caused a discussion. You just forced them to have to think.
Offending people is like vomiting. It can be a necessary and healthy act, but it ought to be a last resort, and most of the time it’s an indication of bad health, and people who take a special pride in it* are immature and anti-social. To quote A.P. Herbert:
Nothing is more difficult to do than to make a verbal observation which will give no offence and bring about more good than harm; and many great men die in old age without ever having done it.
*e.g. “Oh man, I got so wasted last night and threw up everywhere!”
However, strong emotions can cause us to think in feelings rather than in abstract concepts. Usually some emotional distance is required for rational debate.
Louis C.K.
Offending people is like vomiting. It can be a necessary and healthy act, but it ought to be a last resort, and most of the time it’s an indication of bad health, and people who take a special pride in it* are immature and anti-social. To quote A.P. Herbert:
*e.g. “Oh man, I got so wasted last night and threw up everywhere!”
No, you caused an argument. And if you keep annoying them, you’ll never get an actual discussion, either.
However, strong emotions can cause us to think in feelings rather than in abstract concepts. Usually some emotional distance is required for rational debate.