Meek people (like me), may not see the worth in undertaking the risk of publicly revealing arguments or preferences. Embarrassment, shame, potentially being shunned for your revealed preferences, and so on—there are many social risks to being public with your arguments and thought process
2 of the 3 ‘risks’ you highlighted are things you have control over; you are an active participant in your feelings of shame and embarrassment[1], they are strategies ‘parts’ of you are pursuing to meet your needs, and through inner work[2][3] you can stop relying on these self-limiting strategies.
The 3rd is a feature, not a bug. By and large, anyone who would shun you in this context is someone you want to be shunned by; someone who really isn’t worth your time and energy. The obvious exceptions are for those who find themselves in hostile cultures where revealing certain preferences poses the risk of literal harm.
Epistemic status: assertive/competitive, status blind autist who is having a great time being this way and loves convincing others to dip their toe in the water and give it a try; you might just find yourself enjoying it too :)
2 of the 3 ‘risks’ you highlighted are things you have control over; you are an active participant in your feelings of shame and embarrassment[1], they are strategies ‘parts’ of you are pursuing to meet your needs, and through inner work[2][3] you can stop relying on these self-limiting strategies.
The 3rd is a feature, not a bug. By and large, anyone who would shun you in this context is someone you want to be shunned by; someone who really isn’t worth your time and energy.
The obvious exceptions are for those who find themselves in hostile cultures where revealing certain preferences poses the risk of literal harm.
Epistemic status: assertive/competitive, status blind autist who is having a great time being this way and loves convincing others to dip their toe in the water and give it a try; you might just find yourself enjoying it too :)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43306206-the-courage-to-be-disliked
https://mindingourway.com/guilt/
https://neuroticgradientdescent.blogspot.com/2019/07/core-transformation.html