Most disagreements of note—most disagreements people care about—don’t behave like the concert date or physics problem examples: people are very attached to “their own” answers. Sometimes, with extended argument, it’s possible to get someone to change their mind or admit that the other party might be right, but with nowhere near the ease of agreeing on (probabilities of) the date of an event or the result of a calculation—from which we can infer that, in most disagreements people care about, there is “something else” going on besides both parties just wanting to get the right answer.
There is a big difference between the apple colours and concert dates and most typical disagreements: namely that for apples and concerts, there is ridiculously strong, unambiguous evidence that one side is correct.
Looking at QM interpretations, for example, if a pilot wave theory advocate sits down with a Many-worlds person, I wouldn’t expect them to reach an agreement in an afternoon, because the problem is too bloody complicated, and there is too much evidence to sift through. In addition, each person will have different reactions to each piece of evidence, as they start off with different beliefs and intuitions about the world. I don’t think it’s “bad faith” that people are not identical bayesian clones of each other.
Of course, I do agree that oftentimes the reasons for interpreting evidence differently are influenced by bias, values, and self-interest. It’s fair to assume that, say, a flat-earther will not be won over by rational debate. But most disagreements are in the murky middle, where the more correct sides is unlikely to win outright, but can shift the other person a little bit over to the correct side.
I would be interested in your actual defense of the first two sections. It seems the OP went to great lengths to explain exactly where Eliezer went wrong, and contrasted Eliezer’s beliefs with citations to actual, respected domain level experts.
I also do not understand your objection to the term “gross overconfidence”. I think the evidence provided by the OP is completely sufficient to substantiate this claim. In all three cases (and many more I can think of that are not mentioned here), Eliezer has stated things that are probably incorrect, and then dismissively attacked, in an incredibly uncharitable manner, people who believe the opposite claims. “Eliezer is often grossly overconfident” is, in my opinion, a true claim that has been supported with evidence. I do not think charitability requires one to self-censor such a statement.