At a bodyweight of 145 pounds, I deadlifted 350, squatted 305, benched 225, and overhead pressed 145 pounds!
I now also frequently receive compliments on my clothing style and muscles/physical appearance.
Not that brag-worthy, perhaps, but still feels good after a tough break-up a few months ago.
This is fairly late, but better late than never.
I stopped using this system several weeks ago. It proved to be more effort than it was worth, at least in the context of frequent college assignments and meetings. Since very few of the things that I needed to get done were “assigned” through email, the very cool ability to forward emails to one’s Evernote address to automatically convert them to notes did not see much use.
I’ve since transitioned to a very simple (physical) calendar and planner system, combined with flagging emails which need further attention.
Hm, I think the ”!Daily” sub-tag under the ”.When” tag is meant for things like that, i.e., things you’re trying to do every day.
Two problems with that, though:
What about repeating tasks that aren’t daily? One solution might be to just create another appropriate sub-tag, say, “7-Weekly”.
Another problem is that this implementation doesn’t really have tasks “automatically come up.” You still have to put in the motivation to look through your to-dos; the system just makes it easier by ordering them by several filters, most critically by when you want them done (i.e., the ”.When” context tag).
And will do!
Interesting article, but do you have any empirical evidence that people’s thinking styles can be divided so neatly into intuitive vs. logical?
On its face, you seem to be taking this thinking style distinction for granted.
Reflecting on this some more, is an intuitive thinker synonymous with one who primarily uses System 1 style thinking and a logical thinker synonymous with one who primarily uses System 2 style thinking? If so, it’d clarify things quite a bit (for me at least) if you made that clear in your post.
Will do!
So far, not too intense, which is why I’m a little hesitant to fully recommend it. I’ll have better information once the school year starts.
I like it right now not so much because it helps me be that much more productive, but primarily because it is a very natural extension to the way I already use Evernote. Evernote becomes better the more you do with it and the more you put into it, so a productivity/to-do system that allows me to make use of Evernote’s features (tagging, searching, etc.) is great.
Yay! I don’t want to wax too positive about it this early on, but I really do feel like it will continue to work wonders for me, especially during the school year.
I implemented the Secret Weapon—a productivity system that combines Evernote and GTD—and have been making use of it quite effectively. I also have kept up on my recently started gratitude journal.
In other news, Evernote is simply awesome.
What kinds of gymnastics skills?
Just bodyweight exercises like muscle-ups?
Same here. This feeling is especially prevalent for me in weightlifting—my strength/dexterity/stamina attribute is increasing! Too many RPGs played as a kid.
Right. I should have specified that No Contact, the way I’m using it and have seen it used, doesn’t only involve no contact; like you said, No Attention may be a better way to put it.
Thanks! I actually hadn’t thought of it in terms of self-hacking, but that’s a really appropriate term for what I’ve been trying to do.
And I suppose the former. I don’t think it’s quite possible to fully move on unless I really have no feelings (either positive or negative) about my ex. I drew an analogy between breaking up and withdrawal, and I think it sort of holds here; if there are still feelings lingering, it makes it so much harder to resist the temptation to “relapse,” in a similar way to how it’s harder to prevent relapsing if one hasn’t addressed the underlying triggers/causes of an addiction.
I think part of the reason why No Contact is so effective is that it removes all temptations, in the same way that it’s much easier to stay committed to a diet if the foods you’re trying to avoid simply aren’t in your presence (related to lukeprog’s Good News of Situationist Psychology post).
Another intriguing quasi-LW-related aspect of No Contact is that it can be likened to spending a chunk of willpower all at once in the beginning so that you later won’t have to expend (more, if aggregated) willpower constantly to, say, not check up on what your ex is up to. It’s an investment for your future self.
I posted this comment on how to optimally (in the vast majority of situations) handle a break-up.
Since the parent thread was massively downvoted and my comment itself received relatively positive feedback, I thought it may be beneficial to post a link to the comment here.
Also, I’d like to note that LW massively helped me in getting through my break-up. It seems like a sort of trivial/silly situation to talk about on LW, but (at least for me previously) it’s tough to understand just how painful heartbreak can be until it actually happens to you. If it were not for concepts like the Outside View or distinguishing between System 1 and System 2 thinking, I’d be in a worse place than I currently am; so, thank you.
I just recently went through a break-up (SO broke up with me, it was a long-term relationship).
To be frank, this is not at all what you should be doing (i.e., doing a Bayesian calculation re the probability that she’s over you, or calling her and analyzing why she hasn’t called back), regardless of whether your goal is to get back together with her or to move on as quickly as possible.
The best possible piece of advice I could give you is to start a reflection document. Document your feelings, your emotions, everything. It will help, I promise. What also helps is to write down every single negative you can think of about your relationship/ex. (You will be tempted to idealize the relationship/ex, and writing down negatives that you may have looked past while in the relationship will help you.)
Standard break-up advice: do not contact her under any circumstances (No Contact), remove anything that reminds you of her (includes things like unfriending ex on FB), go to the gym (or engage in other activities that’ll keep you busy), and talk to friends and family.
Think of a break-up as going through withdrawal: every time you break No Contact, you’re relapsing and making it much harder for your brain to get used to being without her. Another way to think about it is that your break-up is a wound, and each time you break No Contact, you’re ripping up the forming scab and peeking under it. No Contact is also ideal for getting back together with her (distance makes the heart grow fonder, etc.), if you truly still want that .
Take the Outside View. Lots of people have gone through break-ups thinking that they’ll feel crappy forever and then are fine just a few months later. Time really does help.
If you’re anything like me, going through a break-up will really make explicit the disconnect between your reptilian, System 1 self and your more deliberative/rational System 2 self.
One final piece of advice: closure does not help in the vast majority of cases. Often, a desire for closure is just your subconscious justifying a desire to talk to her again.
EDIT: If it helps at all, given that it was a 3-year relationship and that the break-up seems pretty recent, she’s probably not over you. She may be trying to maintain distance to avoid feeling guilty and confused, and so that she won’t feel tempted to second-guess her decision. Also, usually the dumper has been considering this for a while, so even if you feel like she doesn’t care or isn’t hurting, it may just be that she started the grieving/moving on process earlier than you did (for some insight into how many dumpers think: http://np.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/1htfcn/is_it_true_that_dumper_check_out_of_the/).
I was broken up with recently, and keeping a reflection document has proven tremendously helpful (in dealing with my emotions, feelings, etc.).
That motivated me to start journaling, and this post will likely motivate me to continue journaling, so thank you!
This was my thought process as well last night.
I was going to post something similar!
If you haven’t yet jumped onto the GoT bandwagon, you should consider doing so. As a data point, I did not want to get into A Song of Ice and Fire / Game of Thrones mainly because so many people were into it (I know, silly; another reason was that I have high expectations for fiction that will take up much of my time), so if that describes you, I highly recommend giving it a shot.
I think you’re referring to the test mentioned here.
Exactly. I actually first thought Mr. Money Mustache was almost a crackpot, but I think he has a good point here. His advice on making frugality a habit and part of your identity, combined with the points from this paper on how to get the most happiness for the buck and our knowledge of the hedonic threadmill/adaptation, strikes me as very instrumentally rational, despite how unconventional it seems at first glance (very munchkin-esque actually).
At the same time, it seems so right that I’m a little suspicious, although maybe that’s a result of a status quo bias or the incorrigible consumerist part of my mind finding it unbelievable that I wouldn’t be happier with a few more gadgets and more money.
Thank you!
Hm, interesting. Are you currently weightlifting? What’s your routine like?
I’m not an expert or anything, but I have done quite a bit of research on weightlifting-type stuff, so I can offer some advice if you wish.