I want to throw out that while I am usually SUPER on team “explicit communication norms”, the rule-nuances of the hardest cases might sometimes work best if they are a little chaotic & idiosyncratic.
I personally think there might be something mildly-beneficial and protective, about having “adversarial case detected” escape-clauses that vary considerably from person-to-person.
(Otherwise, a smart lawful adversary can reliably manipulate the shit out of things.)
I appreciate hearing from you about some of what you probably got wrong.
I’m pretty sure that a lot of this started out relatively benignly, and spiraled?
I agree with your impression that arrogance was at least one of several pressures that made it hard to see that things were going in a bad direction. A lot of invisible guard-rails were dropped or traded away over time, and the absence of a certain amount of reality-checking made it very hard to fix after things had veered off the rails.
I hope your account contributes to making people less likely to make similar errors in the future.
(I would also be very unhappy, if I ever saw you having a substantial amount of power over people again though, fwiw.)