I was once in a similar position, due to my proximity to a past (different) thing. I kinda ended up excruciatingly sensitive, to how some things might read or feel to someone who was close, got a lot of good out of it (with or without the bad), and mostly felt like there was no way their account wouldn’t be twisted into something unrecognizable. And who may be struggling, with processing an abrupt shift in their own personal narrative—although I sincerely hope the 2 years of processing helped to make this less of a thing? But if you are going through it anyway, I am sorry.
And… I want this to go right. It didn’t go right then; not entirely. I think I got yelled at by someone I respect, the first time I opened up about it. I’m not quite sure how to make this less scary for them? But I want it to be.
The people I know who got swept up in this includes some exceptionally nice people. There is at least one of them, who I would ordinarily call exceptionally sane. Please don’t feel like you’re obligated to identify as a bad person, or as a victim, because you were swept up in this. Just because some people might say it about you, doesn’t make it who you are.
I was once in a similar position, due to my proximity to a past (different) thing. I kinda ended up excruciatingly sensitive, to how some things might read or feel to someone who was close, got a lot of good out of it (with or without the bad), and mostly felt like there was no way their account wouldn’t be twisted into something unrecognizable. And who may be struggling, with processing an abrupt shift in their own personal narrative—although I sincerely hope the 2 years of processing helped to make this less of a thing? But if you are going through it anyway, I am sorry.
And… I want this to go right. It didn’t go right then; not entirely. I think I got yelled at by someone I respect, the first time I opened up about it. I’m not quite sure how to make this less scary for them? But I want it to be.
The people I know who got swept up in this includes some exceptionally nice people. There is at least one of them, who I would ordinarily call exceptionally sane. Please don’t feel like you’re obligated to identify as a bad person, or as a victim, because you were swept up in this. Just because some people might say it about you, doesn’t make it who you are.