RomanDavis
Someone awsome on here recommended Learn Python the Hard Way. I’ve had school off since Tuesday and I’ve been kicking it’s ass since. It’s really fun. I thought it’d be neat to test out what my abilities are like on Project Euclid.
I’ve solved three so far. I’m particularly proud of coming up with a program to do the Fibonacci sequence. It’s a simple program, and probably not as efficient as it could be, but i didn’t look at any spoilers and feel like a diabolical genius after having solved it.
Of course, but you don’t get surprised when we turn out to be a bunch of apes after all.
Of course. But it destroys excuses, which I’ve found to be the best motivation for action, both in myself and others
I suspect the denial doesn’t come so much from “determined to do things despite consent” as much as “determined to preserve one’s own self esteem.” But it comes off creepy anyway.
They’re totally applying it inconsistently. But they don’t know that. Hence, the social ineptitude.
The point of my post was: you may have swung rather wide of mine.
I mean, women almost never react to being creeped out with an unambiguous response that makes a socially inept person know what’s going on with no room for denial.
I really wished they did, but I can understand why they don’t.
I didn’t say that. You can do what you want. But if someone made you feel uncomfortable, you already feel uncomfortable. Should they not have made you feel uncomfortable? Yes. Is it fair? No.
What are you going to do about it? That’s the only question you get to answer.
I, for one, have read these. They come up any time feminism rubs up against male geekdom, like blisters. Hopefully they do some help, but change is hard, and that’s just how social skills are: they’re skills, and acquiring them is and requires serious change on your part as a person.
This is obfuscated by other things, like hey, sometimes it is the other person’s problem. Not all the time. Maybe even only rarely. But sometimes. And the temptation to make that excuse for yourself is very strong, even if you do know better.
The defensiveness isn’t a good thing, but it’s certainly understandable, and if you’re part of the contrarian cluster, there’s going to be some instinctive, automatic pushback. I know there is in me. Plus the criticism is leveled at (one of) my (our) tribe. What did you think was going to happen?
If you’re dealing with a person with a person with poor social skills, the onus is already on you. You can try to help, or you can run away, or do a hundred other things, but you are already dealing with it.
I’d just like to suggest that using subtle social cues on the socially inept might not be terribly effective for accomplishing desired social outcomes with that person.
They totally told me I was doing things wrong. All the time. It’s just they were doing so in a code I didn’t understand and expecting me to operate by rules I wasn’t told about. If a woman did something like this seven years ago, (And, while the same thing didn’t happen, a lot of the subtler cues did.), I would have done the same things the man did. I was never, ever told, “Hey man, you’re being creepy. Cut it out.” I wouldn’t have known what to do, and I would have done the exact wrong thing.
I wouldn’t do it now. I’m roughly as good of a person as I was then, I just understand the rules better.
So, my social skills are not great. Aren’t even really good. But over the last few years, I’ve gotten so much better from where I was that it’s ridiculous.
Anyway, I wish people, particularly women, had been that open with me about my behavior.
Let me be clear: the scenario you present almost never happens. Now, if it does happens, yes, the creep involved has no excuse but to stop. But the signals people, and particularly woman, give off can be much more obscure if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Like jury duty. Yeah. Why would it be different in Greece?
I think this is it:
Which culture?
I don’t get it either. Seems to happen every time politics is brought up. My own posts in this thread have gone up and down several times. Reflexive down voting over politics I can understand, even if I think it’s silly.
The up votes are actually harder to explain. It’s possible I could have educated some one, but given the people who post here, that seems doubtful.
I didn’t argue that the amount of regulation was zero in all cases. I don’t think may people really believe that, and the argument amounts to a straw man. Only that if a job market didn’t exist, the people working in that job market would be worse off.
I thought the point was clear. Apparently, I was wrong.
If you found it was rude, it’s because I found the point silly, obvious, and really not worth the time. And here I find shortcuts make long delays.
I didn’t mean literally don’t complain ever, that’s silly and I never said that. There is a certain extent to which I think that if you have immediate control over something you should just shut up and do, but that wasn’t what I meant either.
All employment is comodification of human time, and therefore objectification of human beings. Part of living in the real world is making peace with that. The fact that people want to single out porn is silliness. That’s what I meant. Is this really what this whole conversation has been about?
You could always head out into the woods and farm. Or beg. Or steal. Or kill yourself. I didn’t say you liked the job. I said you like the job enough. If the job didn’t exist, you’d be worse off.