I, for one, have read these. They come up any time feminism rubs up against male geekdom, like blisters. Hopefully they do some help, but change is hard, and that’s just how social skills are: they’re skills, and acquiring them is and requires serious change on your part as a person.
This is obfuscated by other things, like hey, sometimes it is the other person’s problem. Not all the time. Maybe even only rarely. But sometimes. And the temptation to make that excuse for yourself is very strong, even if you do know better.
The defensiveness isn’t a good thing, but it’s certainly understandable, and if you’re part of the contrarian cluster, there’s going to be some instinctive, automatic pushback. I know there is in me. Plus the criticism is leveled at (one of) my (our) tribe. What did you think was going to happen?
Naively, I thought the LessWrong commitment to being, well, less wrong, would extend to all opportunities to be less wrong.
I know attempts to discuss privilege here have typically not gone well, which is a pity because I think there’s some good argument that privilege is itself a cognitive bias—a complex one, that both builds on and encourages development of others.
I think there’s some good argument that privilege is itself a cognitive bias—a complex one, that both builds on and encourages development of others.
It’s not clear to me that privilege is a bias of its own, so much as aspects of privilege are examples of other biases, like availability bias.
I think the primary reason that attempts to discuss privilege don’t go well is because the quality of most thought on privilege is, well, not very good. People who volunteer to speak on the topic generally have strong enough opinions that they can’t help but moralize, which is something to resist whenever possible.
I think another problem with discussions of privilege is that they frequently sound as though some people (in the ways that they’re privileged) should have unlimited undefined obligations and other people (in the ways that they’re not privileged) should have unlimited social clout.
I would love to see a discussion of privilege in terms of biases. Obvious ones include: attribution errors (fundamental & ultimate); system justification; outgroup homogeneity & ingroup superiority biases.
I hadn’t considered the availability heuristic but yes, that’s probably relevant too.
That’s actually a really interesting thought. I am white and male and straight and am very aware of my privilege, and also am very interested in heuristics and biases and how they are part of our thought patterns. I consider myself very much a feminist, and also a realist in terms of how people actually work compared with how people would like each other to work. I might brood on this for a bit and write about it.
This could be something that’s kicked around in Discussions for a while perhaps?
Related, I’d like to see defensiveness discussed through the lens of cognitive bias. It has wide impact; it can be improved; improving it likewise has wide impact on one’s life. I think it’s one of those meta-levels of improvement where upgrades significantly affect our ability to upgrade many other things.
Of course, but you don’t get surprised when we turn out to be a bunch of apes after all.
The function of JoeW’s comment is not informing you “I put P(LWers behaving badly)<.05” but “If I remind LWers of a virtue they profess to like, they may alter their behavior to be more in line with that virtue.”
I, for one, have read these. They come up any time feminism rubs up against male geekdom, like blisters. Hopefully they do some help, but change is hard, and that’s just how social skills are: they’re skills, and acquiring them is and requires serious change on your part as a person.
This is obfuscated by other things, like hey, sometimes it is the other person’s problem. Not all the time. Maybe even only rarely. But sometimes. And the temptation to make that excuse for yourself is very strong, even if you do know better.
The defensiveness isn’t a good thing, but it’s certainly understandable, and if you’re part of the contrarian cluster, there’s going to be some instinctive, automatic pushback. I know there is in me. Plus the criticism is leveled at (one of) my (our) tribe. What did you think was going to happen?
Naively, I thought the LessWrong commitment to being, well, less wrong, would extend to all opportunities to be less wrong.
I know attempts to discuss privilege here have typically not gone well, which is a pity because I think there’s some good argument that privilege is itself a cognitive bias—a complex one, that both builds on and encourages development of others.
It’s not clear to me that privilege is a bias of its own, so much as aspects of privilege are examples of other biases, like availability bias.
I think the primary reason that attempts to discuss privilege don’t go well is because the quality of most thought on privilege is, well, not very good. People who volunteer to speak on the topic generally have strong enough opinions that they can’t help but moralize, which is something to resist whenever possible.
I think another problem with discussions of privilege is that they frequently sound as though some people (in the ways that they’re privileged) should have unlimited undefined obligations and other people (in the ways that they’re not privileged) should have unlimited social clout.
Or is that what you mean by moralizing?
I would love to see a discussion of privilege in terms of biases. Obvious ones include: attribution errors (fundamental & ultimate); system justification; outgroup homogeneity & ingroup superiority biases.
I hadn’t considered the availability heuristic but yes, that’s probably relevant too.
That’s actually a really interesting thought. I am white and male and straight and am very aware of my privilege, and also am very interested in heuristics and biases and how they are part of our thought patterns. I consider myself very much a feminist, and also a realist in terms of how people actually work compared with how people would like each other to work. I might brood on this for a bit and write about it.
This could be something that’s kicked around in Discussions for a while perhaps?
Related, I’d like to see defensiveness discussed through the lens of cognitive bias. It has wide impact; it can be improved; improving it likewise has wide impact on one’s life. I think it’s one of those meta-levels of improvement where upgrades significantly affect our ability to upgrade many other things.
There’s also the fundamental attribution error (“they’re not doing a good job because they’re just lazy”).
So do I, as long as it doesn’t start from the subtle assumption that men have privilege(s) while women don’t.
Of course, but you don’t get surprised when we turn out to be a bunch of apes after all.
The function of JoeW’s comment is not informing you “I put P(LWers behaving badly)<.05” but “If I remind LWers of a virtue they profess to like, they may alter their behavior to be more in line with that virtue.”
Well put. I lean towards the “requiring more of male geeks” side, but that’s a really good analysis.
Exactly. (Interestingly, the clash that led me to write that post had the shoe on the other foot, so to speak.)