I’m convinced by mathematical arguments that utility should be additive. If the value of N things in the real world is not N times the value of 1 thing, then I handle that in how I assign utility to world states.
I don’t disagree. My choice of slogan wording—“utility is not additive”—doesn’t capture what I mean. I meant only to deny that the value of something happening N times is (N x U) where U is the value of it happening once.
Your just-so story is more complicated than you seem to think. It involves an equilibrium of at least two memes: an evangelical utilitarianism which damages the host but propagates the meme, plus a cryptic egoism which presumably benefits the host but can’t successfully propagate (it repeatedly arises by spontaneous generation, presumably).
I could critique your story on grounds of plausibility (which strategy do crypto-egoists suggest to their own children?) but instead I will ask why someone infected by the evangelical utilitarianism meme would argue as you suggested in the great-grandparent:
Isn’t it more likely that someone realizing that they have been subverted by a selfish meme would be trying to self-modify?