Given recent discussion of short timelines & take off on LessWrong, AlignmentForm, and broadly, I’ve been quite worried. I want to be as skeptical as I can, but it’s hard to judge anything: I don’t know what information I’m missing from the timeline estimates I hear, and increasingly strange or concerning things are put out in public regularly. I can’t really say how likely short timelines are, but given what’s happening, it’s absurd to dismiss this as all collective delusion, and it seems something serious is happening.
Because of my information deficit, I don’t have any idea what work will lead to positive outcomes in these conditions, which of those problems I could likely contribute the most to, and how I could start on that work.
So I feel my current task is to gather a theory of positive impact in this situation and work out from there. I think it would be extremely useful to talk with as many people who think about this as I can 1:1 to understand what they think are the relevant factors.
More Dakka On Your Expectations
After hearing my friend talk about his roommate’s brash decision-making from the despair at getting rejected by girls he liked several times, my friend mentioned that his roommate had asked out a total of three people since high school. Only three!
While there are more factors in the story involved, I’ve heard similar enough troubles that it seems worth saying: Three people is not a lot. Certainly not enough rejections to merit the magnitude of self-worth issues people can walk away with that few from.
If you had the expectation that if the first person you ask out didn’t like you then you’re doomed to loneliness, then a (probable enough) failure would be such a damaging experience you might not try again for a long time. If you instead believed that number was two, the first rejection would hurt considerably less. The higher you go, the less it hurts.
Maybe the expectation we implicitly have from culture is low enough to make three rejections somewhat sting. Why should it? Why shouldn’t that threshold be something like sixty? Or a hundred?
If you can only alter your chances by acquiring skills, improving yourself, and looking harder, then each rejection is valuable new data on what to do better next time. None should be felt as a failure towards your goal by any means. Rejections are an indicator of progress.