I’m an eccentric existentialist philosopher and education mindset user, specializing in applied metacognition. I’ve devoted most of my waking time to studying and addressing problems of the mind, influenced in large part by the aspiring rationality movement.
Right now I am determined to prove that Earth can do better than the status quo, that there is a way to unlock the vast collective human potential that is currently stuck in ignorance and pointless conflict.
Over the past decade or so, I’ve compiled a toolbox of foundational concepts to help people express in the simplest possible terms what matters most, so they can understand each others’ values and frame situations constructively. Thus empowered with a starting point for effective collaboration, we can build a world we can all be proud of.
Best regards,
Extradimensional Cephalopod a.k.a. ExCeph, a.k.a. XF, a.k.a. “a handsome, brooding Cthulhu” (website: https://wordpress.com/view/ginnungagapfoundation.wordpress.com)
In my experience, the first step in reconciling conflict is to understand one’s own values, before listening to those of others. There are multiple reasons for this step, but the one relevant to your point is that by reflecting on the tradeoffs that I accept or reject and why, I can feel secure in listening to someone else’s point of view. If their approach addresses my own concerns, then I can recognize it and that dissolves the disagreement. If it doesn’t, then I know enough about what I really want to suggest modifications to their approach that would address my concerns. Either way, it keeps me safe from value-drift, especially on important principles like ethics.
Just because someone else has valid concerns doesn’t mean I have to give up any of my own, but it doesn’t mean we’re at an impasse either. Humans have a habit of turning disagreements into false dichotomies. When they listen to each other, the conversation becomes, “alright, I understand your concerns, but you understand why mine are more important, right?” They are so quick to ask other people to sacrifice their values that they don’t think of exploring alternative approaches, ones that can change the situation to fulfill the values of all the stakeholders. That’s what I’m working on changing.
Does that all make sense?