Chipmonk
could different types of social anxiety be differently motivated? Some people might genuinely be optimizing for approval rather than avoiding disapproval. This might explain why some socially anxious people become people-pleasers while others become avoidant.
eh perhap the “motivations” or “causes” are different, but I believe symptoms like this are all resolved the same way: by becoming secure
I wonder if this also explains why exposure therapy works for social anxiety
(I agree that it works sometimes, but lots of people bang their head with naive exposure. Exposure therapy, when actually facilitated by a seasoned expert, may work well— but lots of people hurt themselves with the naive version. And past a certain point there is definitely saturation because you actually can’t exposure yourself to the true worst case scenarios)
There are six different posts on my blog about this.
(The trouble is I haven’t often seen someone read one of these posts and follow it correctly— People come in with too many wrong misconceptions about psychology. Doing it right looks more like not doing bad things than doing right things, which unfortunately is a highly individualistic process because everyone has different memetic viruses.)
yeah usually people use focusing ifs etc. though i think there are significantly faster ways. (trying to write about this, writing about it has never worked unfortunately)
Could you give an example of your question? I don’t know what you’re asking
I don’t see how liking and disliking orthogonal changes anything? Empirically, many of the actions that prevent people from disliking you also prevent people from liking you
others have reported this phenomenon too:
I’m not sure the idea of steady progress is so bad as to be net harmful, though.
You say this and then I don’t understand your explanation. Could you re-explain?
oh nice
tagged this post as self-fulfilling prophecies!
yes!! “focusing on what you want!” (i talk a little more about this and self-fulfilling prophecies here)
**aiming** at what you want. vector. (teleology, not etiology)
This is also my experience helping people with lifelong anxiety/insecurity
Now we just need to ask Sonnet to formalize VDT
what are the examples of the curriculum/activities you’re considering/planning?
@Ivan Vendrov think you’d be interested
Can you think of examples like this in the broader AI landscape? - What are the best examples of self-fulfilling prophecies in AI alignment?
Situational Awareness and race dynamics? h/t Jan Kulveit @Jan_Kulveit
Yea