This is a good example of the Illusion of transparency (leading to a nerdy signaling failure).
We weren’t there, we don’t know why your experience was relevant. You can use an in-joke to signal alliance with other people who get the joke, and exclude people who don’t; but when everybody who’s listening doesn’t get it, you’re creating a mighty small circle of allies.
This is a good example of the Illusion of transparency (leading to a nerdy signaling failure).
We weren’t there, we don’t know why your experience was relevant. You can use an in-joke to signal alliance with other people who get the joke, and exclude people who don’t; but when everybody who’s listening doesn’t get it, you’re creating a mighty small circle of allies.
There was no illusion of transparency; it was intentionally inscrutable. And I don’t play absurd signalling games like some irrationalist savage.