This is something I’ve come up against quite strongly. I note that typical advice for attracting women seems focused on a type of woman I am broadly uninterested in; I find myself a little bereft of ideas on what works for the kind of woman I do like. I’m often reminded of this passage from HughRistik, elsewhere on this site:
Gangestad et al. found that 90-95% of women fit into a gender-typical taxon based on their interests and traits, while 5-10% of women are a gender-atypical taxon (which also contains most of the queer women). 90-95% of women are wired one way; 5-10% are wired another way. As a result, there actually probably are many examples where it’s reasonable to approach women with one set of heuristics by default unless you have special evidence that they are gender-atypical, which allows you to pull out some different heuristics.
This is something I’ve come up against quite strongly. I note that typical advice for attracting women seems focused on a type of woman I am broadly uninterested in; I find myself a little bereft of ideas on what works for the kind of woman I do like. I’m often reminded of this passage from HughRistik, elsewhere on this site: