(I would even argue that penetrating you by surprise and without asking would count as using force, and even on the off chance that some particular state doesn’t correctly define it as rape, it was rape nevertheless.)
Thank you for writing this, it was incredibly brave of you.
Thank you for sharing this reflection. I straightforwardly agree with you—and have also felt conflicted re: different definitions and laws and the limited language we have to describe these experiences about what term to use. Part of the motivation for sharing is that I know I’m not alone in this kind of experience, even if the specific details differ across the experiences of many different people. Thank you for witnessing.
What you’re describing is unambiguously rape.
(I would even argue that penetrating you by surprise and without asking would count as using force, and even on the off chance that some particular state doesn’t correctly define it as rape, it was rape nevertheless.)
Thank you for writing this, it was incredibly brave of you.
Thank you for sharing this reflection. I straightforwardly agree with you—and have also felt conflicted re: different definitions and laws and the limited language we have to describe these experiences about what term to use. Part of the motivation for sharing is that I know I’m not alone in this kind of experience, even if the specific details differ across the experiences of many different people. Thank you for witnessing.