It was Thanksgiving dinner that sealed it. My husband bowed his head humbly and said, “I’m thankful for my family.”
He was back.
And I saw what had been missing: pride. He’d lost pride in himself.
If I were that husband, I’d have tried to save my pride even if it meant abandoning the family, because once your pride is taken from you, it’s only a matter of time before all the other good things in your life get taken as well.
The author believes that her husband lost pride not for a good reason, but because “[m]aybe that’s what happens when our egos take a hit in midlife and we realize we’re not as young and golden anymore.” Do you disagree with her here? If not, how would getting a divorce have been a better solution than realizing that his wife was not the problem?
IMO the author is correct in her assessment. (Also for the record, I consider her actions admirable.)
I’m not saying that getting a divorce is necessarily preferable to staying in such a situation; only that I’d have done it if I saw absolutely no other way to regain pride. There are likely ways to regain pride that don’t involve divorce, like the author’s first suggestion of “go trekking in Nepal”, and of course I’d consider those carefully first.
If I were that husband, I’d have tried to save my pride even if it meant abandoning the family, because once your pride is taken from you, it’s only a matter of time before all the other good things in your life get taken as well.
The author believes that her husband lost pride not for a good reason, but because “[m]aybe that’s what happens when our egos take a hit in midlife and we realize we’re not as young and golden anymore.” Do you disagree with her here? If not, how would getting a divorce have been a better solution than realizing that his wife was not the problem?
IMO the author is correct in her assessment. (Also for the record, I consider her actions admirable.)
I’m not saying that getting a divorce is necessarily preferable to staying in such a situation; only that I’d have done it if I saw absolutely no other way to regain pride. There are likely ways to regain pride that don’t involve divorce, like the author’s first suggestion of “go trekking in Nepal”, and of course I’d consider those carefully first.