“Of course I exist, therefore they must be wrong.”
I think most of the alternatives to the experience described in the post, where incorrect frames keep getting noticed, is considering it an unimportant problem to work on solving, perhaps not even enough to extract “thinking in systematically wrong ways” as a salient distinction from everything else you don’t find perfect about interactions with other people. In the sense that building a perpetual motion machine is not an important problem, it’s not an efficient target for directing effort towards, perhaps it’s literally impossible to make progress on, and so actually trying to do it is concentration on an attempt at causing a miracle. It would be game-changing if somehow successful, but at least the vivid emotional response or detailed comprehension of instances of the problem remaining unsolved is not it.
So in that sense it’s better from the emotional experience and allocation of cognition points of view to care about it more academically, if one’s mind has that flexibility without forgetting that it’s still an actual problem. Which it doesn’t always, hence other things still need to be done. Also the moral status of this move, when available, is not totally clear.
Many acquire the serenity to accept what they cannot change, only to find the ‘cannot change’ is temporary and the serenity is permanent.
— Steven Kaas
I think most of the alternatives to the experience described in the post, where incorrect frames keep getting noticed, is considering it an unimportant problem to work on solving, perhaps not even enough to extract “thinking in systematically wrong ways” as a salient distinction from everything else you don’t find perfect about interactions with other people. In the sense that building a perpetual motion machine is not an important problem, it’s not an efficient target for directing effort towards, perhaps it’s literally impossible to make progress on, and so actually trying to do it is concentration on an attempt at causing a miracle. It would be game-changing if somehow successful, but at least the vivid emotional response or detailed comprehension of instances of the problem remaining unsolved is not it.
So in that sense it’s better from the emotional experience and allocation of cognition points of view to care about it more academically, if one’s mind has that flexibility without forgetting that it’s still an actual problem. Which it doesn’t always, hence other things still need to be done. Also the moral status of this move, when available, is not totally clear.