For number 2 and 3, my gut reaction is to say you haven’t found the right kind of games for your aptitudes, if you’re experiencing it as work. For computer games, there are genres which don’t rely so much on spatial awareness and/or reflexes such as turn-based strategy. For board games and card games, there is an extremely wide range of play styles out there, some of which will appeal to you more than others.
For number 2 and 3, my gut reaction is to say you haven’t found the right kind of games for your aptitudes, if you’re experiencing it as work. For computer games, there are genres which don’t rely so much on spatial awareness and/or reflexes such as turn-based strategy. For board games and card games, there is an extremely wide range of play styles out there, some of which will appeal to you more than others.