“that person, who wants to be treated in the way that people usually treat men”
Incidentally, one of the things I dislike about this framing is that gender stereotypes / scripts “go both ways”. That is, it should be not just “treated like a man” but also “treat people like men do.”
It was surprisingly impactful to tell myself and my parents I identified as male for purposes of elder care. Obviously I had the option to say “I will manage finances and logistics but not emotional or physical care labor” the whole time, but it was freeing to frame it as “well this is all my uncle was doing and no one thought he was defecting”.
Incidentally, one of the things I dislike about this framing is that gender stereotypes / scripts “go both ways”. That is, it should be not just “treated like a man” but also “treat people like men do.”
It was surprisingly impactful to tell myself and my parents I identified as male for purposes of elder care. Obviously I had the option to say “I will manage finances and logistics but not emotional or physical care labor” the whole time, but it was freeing to frame it as “well this is all my uncle was doing and no one thought he was defecting”.