It was surprisingly impactful to tell myself and my parents I identified as male for purposes of elder care. Obviously I had the option to say “I will manage finances and logistics but not emotional or physical care labor” the whole time, but it was freeing to frame it as “well this is all my uncle was doing and no one thought he was defecting”.
It was surprisingly impactful to tell myself and my parents I identified as male for purposes of elder care. Obviously I had the option to say “I will manage finances and logistics but not emotional or physical care labor” the whole time, but it was freeing to frame it as “well this is all my uncle was doing and no one thought he was defecting”.