Alicorn’s Highlights and Shadows post from her Luminosity sequence is probably a useful and related link because it suggests strategies for managing what is “approved” in the sense of this post. (She talks about thoughts and dispositions being “endorsed” instead of “approved”, but it appears to me that it’s roughly the same thing approached from a difference direction.)
I was about to say much the same thing, that in CBT/therapy in general approval is usually referred to as ‘endorsement’.
Slightly-related anecdote: my therapist extended the endorsement terminology all the way out to her personal preferences: when discussing what books we read, I asked her if she’d read Twilight and her response was “yes, but I don’t endorse [that I read it]” with a trace of embarrassment.
Also, with a set up like that it seems necessary to add a link to Alicorn’s Twilight fanfic, Luminosity, that changes Bella to be radically better at the skills described in the luminosity sequence than she is in canon, with more self-awareness and capacity for self-management (radically changing her social capacities and therefore her romantic trajectory—its squarely in the scifi/fantasy genre and not at all a romance novel).
Alicorn’s Highlights and Shadows post from her Luminosity sequence is probably a useful and related link because it suggests strategies for managing what is “approved” in the sense of this post. (She talks about thoughts and dispositions being “endorsed” instead of “approved”, but it appears to me that it’s roughly the same thing approached from a difference direction.)
I was about to say much the same thing, that in CBT/therapy in general approval is usually referred to as ‘endorsement’.
Slightly-related anecdote: my therapist extended the endorsement terminology all the way out to her personal preferences: when discussing what books we read, I asked her if she’d read Twilight and her response was “yes, but I don’t endorse [that I read it]” with a trace of embarrassment.
Cute story :-)
Also, with a set up like that it seems necessary to add a link to Alicorn’s Twilight fanfic, Luminosity, that changes Bella to be radically better at the skills described in the luminosity sequence than she is in canon, with more self-awareness and capacity for self-management (radically changing her social capacities and therefore her romantic trajectory—its squarely in the scifi/fantasy genre and not at all a romance novel).