I was a lot like this. I didn’t end up having my child until I was 40, after something somewhat resembling an overextended adolescence. I think it was feeling I’d found just the right partner.
In any case, I knew I wanted children but didn’t feel ready, then I did feel this could work when I was with someone I felt I could raise children with for the next couple of decades. And so far it’s going pretty well.
(And then the teenagers landed on our doorstep, so I got to experience adolescent angst from the outside about a decade earlier than I’d expected. FUN TIMES!)
I do regret not having as much freedom to party and get drunk and chase loose persons. On the other hand, my offspring is (as any father will tell you) the most beautiful and charming child in the world, when I say “she’s so smart!” there’s a shudder in my voice and we have realised the important goal here is to steer her away from becoming the next Dark Lord. She likes hissing like a snake already.
In general, the most difficult task in my life has been to work out what I actually really want: what will satisfy me. Note I say “satisfy me” rather than “make me happy”—I’m much clearer on the former as a guiding principle than the latter. For many people, the hardest part of getting things done is to work out what it is they really want to get done—what their true goals are.
I was a lot like this. I didn’t end up having my child until I was 40, after something somewhat resembling an overextended adolescence. I think it was feeling I’d found just the right partner.
In any case, I knew I wanted children but didn’t feel ready, then I did feel this could work when I was with someone I felt I could raise children with for the next couple of decades. And so far it’s going pretty well.
(And then the teenagers landed on our doorstep, so I got to experience adolescent angst from the outside about a decade earlier than I’d expected. FUN TIMES!)
I do regret not having as much freedom to party and get drunk and chase loose persons. On the other hand, my offspring is (as any father will tell you) the most beautiful and charming child in the world, when I say “she’s so smart!” there’s a shudder in my voice and we have realised the important goal here is to steer her away from becoming the next Dark Lord. She likes hissing like a snake already.
In general, the most difficult task in my life has been to work out what I actually really want: what will satisfy me. Note I say “satisfy me” rather than “make me happy”—I’m much clearer on the former as a guiding principle than the latter. For many people, the hardest part of getting things done is to work out what it is they really want to get done—what their true goals are.
I once knew a couple who referred to their one year old daughter as the “evil overlord.” I’m not completely unworried what happened to her.