I’d re-address point 8 by saying that a women is rewarded socially for subverting her own beliefs at the expense of those of her social group.
She is actively punished if she steps away form group-norms (eg by pointing out errors in the groupthink or common misconceptions) - starting by getting a “boy you’re weird” look, glances amongst the others to indicate that “they all think you’re weird” and other social pressures.
If you persist, this can go to the “polite pulling aside”—where usually one of the women will explain to you that you are being disruptive (usually by couching it in “we’re really concerned for you” language)… and then on to hostility, usually involving a heavy dose of “you’re not respecting our opinions”… finally to shunning/ostracism from the group.
Women learn pretty quick that you either put up or shut up… and that if you “don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it at all”.
The exceptions I’ve found are mainly amongst girl-geeks, SF-fandom and the other usual haunts no doubt familiar to all here… which also are nearly always predominantly male.
I’d re-address point 8 by saying that a women is rewarded socially for subverting her own beliefs at the expense of those of her social group.
She is actively punished if she steps away form group-norms (eg by pointing out errors in the groupthink or common misconceptions) - starting by getting a “boy you’re weird” look, glances amongst the others to indicate that “they all think you’re weird” and other social pressures.
If you persist, this can go to the “polite pulling aside”—where usually one of the women will explain to you that you are being disruptive (usually by couching it in “we’re really concerned for you” language)… and then on to hostility, usually involving a heavy dose of “you’re not respecting our opinions”… finally to shunning/ostracism from the group.
Women learn pretty quick that you either put up or shut up… and that if you “don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it at all”.
The exceptions I’ve found are mainly amongst girl-geeks, SF-fandom and the other usual haunts no doubt familiar to all here… which also are nearly always predominantly male.