I think this is more general: if you’re seen as a jerk, you haven’t learned how to interact with people (at least the subset that sees you as a jerk).
Being loud and honest about your opinions (though really, “honest” is often a cover for “cherry-picked highlights that aren’t quite wrong, but are not honest full evaluations) is one way to be a jerk, but by no means the only one.
Basically my model is that being silent and dishonest is a way to cover up one’s lack of appreciation for others. Because being loud and honest isn’t being a jerk if your loud honest opinions are “I love and respect you”.
I think this is more general: if you’re seen as a jerk, you haven’t learned how to interact with people (at least the subset that sees you as a jerk).
Being loud and honest about your opinions (though really, “honest” is often a cover for “cherry-picked highlights that aren’t quite wrong, but are not honest full evaluations) is one way to be a jerk, but by no means the only one.
Basically my model is that being silent and dishonest is a way to cover up one’s lack of appreciation for others. Because being loud and honest isn’t being a jerk if your loud honest opinions are “I love and respect you”.