There are basically four problems with forcing instead of listening:
I will note that, sometimes, the connection between “you” and the part of your brain you’re trying to communicate with is that the connection isn’t great and that part’s memory is terrible—this is the heart of executive dysfunction.
That, uh, is a good question. Now I’m not sure myself.
I think what I was going for is the idea that, yes, subagents matter, but no, you’re not always going to be able to use these methods to get better at dealing with them. So don’t feel too bad if you have a condition that renders this more difficult or even impossible.
Ah. Yeah, I’d prefer people don’t feel bad about any of this. My ideal would be that people receive all this as a purely pressure-free description of what simply is. That will result in some changes, but kind of like nudging a rock off a cliff results in it falling. Or maybe more like noticing a truck barreling down the road causes people to move off the road. There’s truly no reason to feel defective or like a failure here even if one can’t “move”.
You know, in a weird sort of way, I think your comment actually makes this more helpful for people who have this impairment in ability. We try so damn hard to “fix” what’s wrong with us and are so quick to self-judgment when something doesn’t work. By framing this as a description of what is, I think it helps reinforce the idea of not just trying harder via application of more force, more self-hatred, etc.
(p.s. I saw your reply to my comment about subagents which want bad things and really appreciate it. I’m still trying to process it; you should see a reply soon)
I will note that, sometimes, the connection between “you” and the part of your brain you’re trying to communicate with is that the connection isn’t great and that part’s memory is terrible—this is the heart of executive dysfunction.
Yep. These seem like true statements. I’m missing why you’re saying them or how they’re a response to the part you’re quoting. Clarify?
That, uh, is a good question. Now I’m not sure myself.
I think what I was going for is the idea that, yes, subagents matter, but no, you’re not always going to be able to use these methods to get better at dealing with them. So don’t feel too bad if you have a condition that renders this more difficult or even impossible.
Ah. Yeah, I’d prefer people don’t feel bad about any of this. My ideal would be that people receive all this as a purely pressure-free description of what simply is. That will result in some changes, but kind of like nudging a rock off a cliff results in it falling. Or maybe more like noticing a truck barreling down the road causes people to move off the road. There’s truly no reason to feel defective or like a failure here even if one can’t “move”.
You know, in a weird sort of way, I think your comment actually makes this more helpful for people who have this impairment in ability. We try so damn hard to “fix” what’s wrong with us and are so quick to self-judgment when something doesn’t work. By framing this as a description of what is, I think it helps reinforce the idea of not just trying harder via application of more force, more self-hatred, etc.
(p.s. I saw your reply to my comment about subagents which want bad things and really appreciate it. I’m still trying to process it; you should see a reply soon)