Just my opinion but I trust Internal Family Systems as a technique over IDC in general. Of course both have their downsides and can be taught poorly / wrongly, but the inclusion of the compassionate, curious, open Self in IFS seems critical for this sort of process to go in a positive direction, rather than an arbitrary or distorted one.
… which seems to be pointing in a similar direction. There’s some convergent evolution here, in that I found that teaching “Understanding Shoulds” (which gives participants a sense of fondness and receptivity to all of their impulses and urges, even the ones they’re angry at or feel are counterproductive) was a strong prereq for IDC.
If you set out to beat one of your parts into submission, or to confuse and manipulate it, you’re probably gonna (locally) succeed. The solution to that problem isn’t “don’t use one of these techniques,” because if you have the predecided mindset to begin with, it’ll corrupt anything that you try to do.
A FB friend writes, in response to this post:
… which seems to be pointing in a similar direction. There’s some convergent evolution here, in that I found that teaching “Understanding Shoulds” (which gives participants a sense of fondness and receptivity to all of their impulses and urges, even the ones they’re angry at or feel are counterproductive) was a strong prereq for IDC.
If you set out to beat one of your parts into submission, or to confuse and manipulate it, you’re probably gonna (locally) succeed. The solution to that problem isn’t “don’t use one of these techniques,” because if you have the predecided mindset to begin with, it’ll corrupt anything that you try to do.