This version of IDC has not resulted in people reporting that problem (or at least not to me) in some dozen-or-so instances of teaching it to a room of 30 people.
(What’s presented above is actually an older version of IDC; my story is that Anna sort of forked away from it and kept developing and I stubbornly held with the simple straightforward thing that a middle schooler could understand and use.)
FWIW I think there’s also something to the thing Anna mentions about IDC being biased towards parts that are more verbal. You can get around this with sufficient skill at focusing and introspection, but my sense is that there is indeed some number of people who use it without that sufficient skill, and therefore end up in a state where they’ve integrated all of the concerns of verbal part A, and only 30% of the concerns of less-verbal part B. And because they themselves aren’t in touch with other channels such as kinesthetic, they think they are 100% integrated and often act from that place
Just my opinion but I trust Internal Family Systems as a technique over IDC in general. Of course both have their downsides and can be taught poorly / wrongly, but the inclusion of the compassionate, curious, open Self in IFS seems critical for this sort of process to go in a positive direction, rather than an arbitrary or distorted one.
… which seems to be pointing in a similar direction. There’s some convergent evolution here, in that I found that teaching “Understanding Shoulds” (which gives participants a sense of fondness and receptivity to all of their impulses and urges, even the ones they’re angry at or feel are counterproductive) was a strong prereq for IDC.
If you set out to beat one of your parts into submission, or to confuse and manipulate it, you’re probably gonna (locally) succeed. The solution to that problem isn’t “don’t use one of these techniques,” because if you have the predecided mindset to begin with, it’ll corrupt anything that you try to do.
This version of IDC has not resulted in people reporting that problem (or at least not to me) in some dozen-or-so instances of teaching it to a room of 30 people.
(What’s presented above is actually an older version of IDC; my story is that Anna sort of forked away from it and kept developing and I stubbornly held with the simple straightforward thing that a middle schooler could understand and use.)
FWIW I think there’s also something to the thing Anna mentions about IDC being biased towards parts that are more verbal. You can get around this with sufficient skill at focusing and introspection, but my sense is that there is indeed some number of people who use it without that sufficient skill, and therefore end up in a state where they’ve integrated all of the concerns of verbal part A, and only 30% of the concerns of less-verbal part B. And because they themselves aren’t in touch with other channels such as kinesthetic, they think they are 100% integrated and often act from that place
(Focusing is also an IDC prereq in my own tech tree, which helps with this correct point.)
A FB friend writes, in response to this post:
… which seems to be pointing in a similar direction. There’s some convergent evolution here, in that I found that teaching “Understanding Shoulds” (which gives participants a sense of fondness and receptivity to all of their impulses and urges, even the ones they’re angry at or feel are counterproductive) was a strong prereq for IDC.
If you set out to beat one of your parts into submission, or to confuse and manipulate it, you’re probably gonna (locally) succeed. The solution to that problem isn’t “don’t use one of these techniques,” because if you have the predecided mindset to begin with, it’ll corrupt anything that you try to do.