If the accusation is “they isolated me”, showing that she wasn’t isolated rebuts it. If the accusation was “they isolated me, but only from some people”, she should have said that in the first place.
If you let someone make a wide scope accusation, and then the accusation is proven false, and then you say “well, they didn’t rebut this narrower scope accusation”, you are enabling dishonesty. (Especially if the narrower scope accusation doesn’t sound as impressive as the original one.) People can only rebut accusations that were made and it’s easy to just keep changing the accusation to escape being proven wrong.
it’s easy to just keep changing the accusation to escape being proven wrong
This doesn’t seem true. It should be clear why strategic isolation (i.e. isolation from people who aren’t specifically preferred by Nonlinear) is a problem. Meanwhile, if strategic isolation was disproven and some other forms of isolation were raised (e.g. isolation for medical reasons to avoid contagion), these other forms of isolation would either be justified or obviously not exist, and therefore wouldn’t be possible to bring up.
Strategic meanings of words are uniquely relevant in the context of abuse, because most of the damage caused by abuse and most of the means used to abuse are in the strategic domain. It is therefore especially legitimate to be talking strategically rather than generically in the case of abuse.
Strategic meanings of words are uniquely relevant in the context of abuse
“You can only rebut the accusation that someone actually makes” is relevant in all contexts.
The standard that you seem to be suggesting is Kafkaesque. Someone accuses you of something, you prove them false, but that doesn’t count because of strategic meanings of words. What?
(That’s aside from the question of how strategic meanings of words are even relevant. Nonlinear had no control over the words in Ben’s post.)
these other forms of isolation would either be justified or obviously not exist, and therefore wouldn’t be possible to bring up.
The problem is changing the accusation after the fact, not the details of the change. There are plenty of other ways the accusation could be changed after the fact that aren’t about forms of isolation.
The standard that you seem to be suggesting is Kafkaesque. Someone accuses you of something, you prove them false, but that doesn’t count because of strategic meanings of words. What?
But imagine this from the other side of a conflict. There’s a social norm:
Don’t isolate people (e.g. because it makes them vulnerable, e.g. to abuse).
Now a hypothetical (cartoonishly explicit) bad actor comes along and says “Aha, I know what to do, I will use my soft power to isolate my employee, but only from some people, and that way I’m not “isolating” them, but I can still control their social context of influences, support, and ideology”. (To be extra clear: I’m not following the story in detail and I’m genuinely not claiming that Nonlinear is like this; there’s some possible relevance, in that their genuinely well-intended actions might possibly have had a similarly bad effect as this hypothetical cartoonish bad actor would hypothetically have had.)
So this bad actor does this. Now, did they isolate the person? Did they violate the norm? Can you accuse them of isolating their employee? Do you have to exactly specify what shape of isolation, on pain of making an infinitely malleable accusation? If you later specify the shape / form of the isolation, are you changing the accusation?
You should be specifying enough so that they don’t say something that rebuts the accusation and you can then respond with “well, they rebutted what I actually said, but they didn’t rebut what I meant, so it doesn’t count”.
Alice and Chloe report that they were advised not to spend time with ‘low value people’, including their families, romantic partners, and anyone local to where they were staying, with the exception of guests/visitors that Nonlinear invited. Alice and Chloe report this made them very socially dependent on Kat/Emerson/Drew and otherwise very isolated.
If that’s what she’s accusing people of, you have no business later saying “well, actually, they invited her romantic partner, and she was encouraged to invite friends and family, but the accusations are still totally true because she was socially isolated.” That’s not just a slightly different interpretation of her words, that’s flat out saying that the very things brought up in the original accusation as a smoking gun suddenly don’t matter now that they were proven false.
I think this is a good first step towards understanding it. That said, this almost frames it as a way to handle adversarially chosen edge-cases, which I think doesn’t get to the core of the understanding. One thing I would highlight:
Don’t isolate people (e.g. because it makes them vulnerable, e.g. to abuse).
That is, “don’t isolate people” isn’t a rule because People Are Happier When They Are Around Others (even though that is true in a generic sense, and happiness does in a generic sense correlate with goodness). Rather, “don’t isolate people” is a rule because of the strategic consequences of isolation. As such, it is natural that “don’t isolate people” would focus on the strategic facet of isolation.
Your position makes sense if you are highly interested in the generic meaning of the word, and not at all interested in the strategic meaning of the word. After all, language is what we make it, and if people decide to make language in such a way that “isolating” is never used in the strategic sense, then of course it would be insanely confusing for someone to insist on using it in that sense, especially in a public accusation of all places. However I think many people, probably even most people, would be interested in the strategic meaning of the word, and not the generic meaning of the word.
No, it isn’t. If you make an accusation about and to third parties, it’s those third parties’ understanding of language that is relevant—not what “we” understand.
“I have a different meaning of those words I put in the accusation because language is what we make it” is dishonest.
Sure, but since both my and Ozy’s reaction to the counterarguments about isolation was “it sure seems like there could still have been some isolation”, there are at least some third-parties who understood the strategic sense. I’m not making the argument that Alice and Ben can use the word however they want, I’m making the argument that lots of people understand this.
Maybe we could test it. Like we could give some people a story of some cult which insists that some victims spend all their time interacting with cult members, and then ask the people whether the cult isolated those victims (as would be implied if people use the strategic meaning of the word) or did the opposite of isolating them (as would be implied if people used the generic meaning of the word).
I think calling this a strategic meaning is not that helpful. I would say the issue is that “isolated” is underspecified. It’s not like there was a fully fleshed out account that was then backtracked on, it’s more like: what was the isolation? were they isolated from literally everyone who wasn’t Kat, Emerson or Drew, or were they isolated /pushed to isolate more than is healthy from people they didn’t need to have their ‘career face’ on for? We now know the latter was meant, but either was plausible.
It’s unhelpful when it comes to just explaining the meaning of “isolation” as that is better communicated by something like Ozy’s description, or in various other ways.
However, I think at least in theory it can be helpful for understanding where to focus one’s attention in the case of community drama like this, including for other questions than just the “isolation” one. Maybe not in practice because I haven’t gone in depth for explaining what I mean by “strategic” though.
Because she specifically said she was isolated from them. She wasn’t. And now we’re supposed to believe that she really meant a form of isolation where those don’t count, even though she explicitly said they count.
If the accusation is “they isolated me”, showing that she wasn’t isolated rebuts it. If the accusation was “they isolated me, but only from some people”, she should have said that in the first place.
If you let someone make a wide scope accusation, and then the accusation is proven false, and then you say “well, they didn’t rebut this narrower scope accusation”, you are enabling dishonesty. (Especially if the narrower scope accusation doesn’t sound as impressive as the original one.) People can only rebut accusations that were made and it’s easy to just keep changing the accusation to escape being proven wrong.
This doesn’t seem true. It should be clear why strategic isolation (i.e. isolation from people who aren’t specifically preferred by Nonlinear) is a problem. Meanwhile, if strategic isolation was disproven and some other forms of isolation were raised (e.g. isolation for medical reasons to avoid contagion), these other forms of isolation would either be justified or obviously not exist, and therefore wouldn’t be possible to bring up.
Strategic meanings of words are uniquely relevant in the context of abuse, because most of the damage caused by abuse and most of the means used to abuse are in the strategic domain. It is therefore especially legitimate to be talking strategically rather than generically in the case of abuse.
“You can only rebut the accusation that someone actually makes” is relevant in all contexts.
The standard that you seem to be suggesting is Kafkaesque. Someone accuses you of something, you prove them false, but that doesn’t count because of strategic meanings of words. What?
(That’s aside from the question of how strategic meanings of words are even relevant. Nonlinear had no control over the words in Ben’s post.)
The problem is changing the accusation after the fact, not the details of the change. There are plenty of other ways the accusation could be changed after the fact that aren’t about forms of isolation.
But imagine this from the other side of a conflict. There’s a social norm:
Now a hypothetical (cartoonishly explicit) bad actor comes along and says “Aha, I know what to do, I will use my soft power to isolate my employee, but only from some people, and that way I’m not “isolating” them, but I can still control their social context of influences, support, and ideology”. (To be extra clear: I’m not following the story in detail and I’m genuinely not claiming that Nonlinear is like this; there’s some possible relevance, in that their genuinely well-intended actions might possibly have had a similarly bad effect as this hypothetical cartoonish bad actor would hypothetically have had.)
So this bad actor does this. Now, did they isolate the person? Did they violate the norm? Can you accuse them of isolating their employee? Do you have to exactly specify what shape of isolation, on pain of making an infinitely malleable accusation? If you later specify the shape / form of the isolation, are you changing the accusation?
You should be specifying enough so that they don’t say something that rebuts the accusation and you can then respond with “well, they rebutted what I actually said, but they didn’t rebut what I meant, so it doesn’t count”.
If that’s what she’s accusing people of, you have no business later saying “well, actually, they invited her romantic partner, and she was encouraged to invite friends and family, but the accusations are still totally true because she was socially isolated.” That’s not just a slightly different interpretation of her words, that’s flat out saying that the very things brought up in the original accusation as a smoking gun suddenly don’t matter now that they were proven false.
I think this is a good first step towards understanding it. That said, this almost frames it as a way to handle adversarially chosen edge-cases, which I think doesn’t get to the core of the understanding. One thing I would highlight:
That is, “don’t isolate people” isn’t a rule because People Are Happier When They Are Around Others (even though that is true in a generic sense, and happiness does in a generic sense correlate with goodness). Rather, “don’t isolate people” is a rule because of the strategic consequences of isolation. As such, it is natural that “don’t isolate people” would focus on the strategic facet of isolation.
Your position makes sense if you are highly interested in the generic meaning of the word, and not at all interested in the strategic meaning of the word. After all, language is what we make it, and if people decide to make language in such a way that “isolating” is never used in the strategic sense, then of course it would be insanely confusing for someone to insist on using it in that sense, especially in a public accusation of all places. However I think many people, probably even most people, would be interested in the strategic meaning of the word, and not the generic meaning of the word.
No, it isn’t. If you make an accusation about and to third parties, it’s those third parties’ understanding of language that is relevant—not what “we” understand.
“I have a different meaning of those words I put in the accusation because language is what we make it” is dishonest.
Sure, but since both my and Ozy’s reaction to the counterarguments about isolation was “it sure seems like there could still have been some isolation”, there are at least some third-parties who understood the strategic sense. I’m not making the argument that Alice and Ben can use the word however they want, I’m making the argument that lots of people understand this.
Maybe we could test it. Like we could give some people a story of some cult which insists that some victims spend all their time interacting with cult members, and then ask the people whether the cult isolated those victims (as would be implied if people use the strategic meaning of the word) or did the opposite of isolating them (as would be implied if people used the generic meaning of the word).
I think calling this a strategic meaning is not that helpful. I would say the issue is that “isolated” is underspecified. It’s not like there was a fully fleshed out account that was then backtracked on, it’s more like: what was the isolation? were they isolated from literally everyone who wasn’t Kat, Emerson or Drew, or were they isolated /pushed to isolate more than is healthy from people they didn’t need to have their ‘career face’ on for? We now know the latter was meant, but either was plausible.
It’s unhelpful when it comes to just explaining the meaning of “isolation” as that is better communicated by something like Ozy’s description, or in various other ways.
However, I think at least in theory it can be helpful for understanding where to focus one’s attention in the case of community drama like this, including for other questions than just the “isolation” one. Maybe not in practice because I haven’t gone in depth for explaining what I mean by “strategic” though.
I gave a quote from Ben’s post above.
She specified families, romantic partners, and locals.
Maybe this doesn’t count as fully fleshed, but the new interpretation certainly backtracks on these.
How does it backtrack?
Because she specifically said she was isolated from them. She wasn’t. And now we’re supposed to believe that she really meant a form of isolation where those don’t count, even though she explicitly said they count.