I have hesitated to criticize you beyond a certain point in the past because you have often come across as mean, and because I expected such criticism to result in that being aimed at me. If you do not want people to hesitate to criticize you, perhaps you should be nice.
I have hesitated to criticize you beyond a certain point in the past because you have often come across as mean, and because I expected such criticism to result in that being aimed at me.
That was ironic self-referential humor, right? I’ve learned that ironic self-referential humor has a surprisingly low chance of making it across the Internet gap.
I’ve learned that ironic self-referential humor has a surprisingly low chance of making it across the Internet gap.
You don’t say?
I’m not really sure about Furcas’s remark. There is a real correlation between having a “thick skin” and propensity to be mean to others, and far too many people seem to think that the former entitles them to the latter. This is why Crocker’s Rules have been so widely misinterpreted.
Yes, of course. And this is a problem in some debate fora, where politeness is expected and enforced. But being easily offended is not going to be a successful strategy here at LW.
So it was, in fact, unironic, sardonic humor. And not ironic self-referential humour.
For it to be irony you need to mean something other than what you’re saying. Had you been laughing both with AND at it it would have been ironic sardonic humour.
But I’m sure you knew that. You’re very smart after all. Your mean behaviour proves that you are highly intelligent, by asserting your higher intellectual status than others.
I voted the “pathetic” comment down but this one up so there was no net change in karma. I don’t think you deserve any karma hit because I think the intent was fine; only the delivery was botched.
Yep, I thought twice before saying it because I suspected you might say something like that, and I don’t like it when people say things like that to me.
Yep, I thought twice before saying it because I suspected you might say something like that, and I don’t like it when people say things like that to me.
It can be laudable to run into a burning building to rescue someone, but that doesn’t make it OK to set the building on fire. Now that you know that you’re protecting yourself from disagreement by being not-nice, will you do it less?
I don’t think anyone except Alicorn would be scared by that level of meanness.
Hell, out of all the comments I’ve posted on LW, I can remember exactly two times that I’ve been ‘mean’, and one of those times is in this thread, and was meant semi-humorously.
When I get negative feedback on my communication style, I’m loath to assume that it’s only the speaker who feels that way; of those who perceive a particular problem only a small minority will speak up.
FYI, there are several people who’ve commented here who claim to have trouble posting comments due to anxiety about the sort of feedback they’ll receive.
I have hesitated to criticize you beyond a certain point in the past because you have often come across as mean, and because I expected such criticism to result in that being aimed at me. If you do not want people to hesitate to criticize you, perhaps you should be nice.
That’s pathetic.
That was ironic self-referential humor, right? I’ve learned that ironic self-referential humor has a surprisingly low chance of making it across the Internet gap.
I’m not really sure about Furcas’s remark. There is a real correlation between having a “thick skin” and propensity to be mean to others, and far too many people seem to think that the former entitles them to the latter. This is why Crocker’s Rules have been so widely misinterpreted.
On the other hand, people also often seem to think that a propensity to be nice to others entitles them to have an overly thin skin.
Yes, of course. And this is a problem in some debate fora, where politeness is expected and enforced. But being easily offended is not going to be a successful strategy here at LW.
Yes it was, although, to be perfectly honest, I first thought “That’s pathetic” and then noticed how hilarious it was and posted it.
Were you laughing with your first thought or at your first thought?
With it, obviously.
So it was, in fact, unironic, sardonic humor. And not ironic self-referential humour. For it to be irony you need to mean something other than what you’re saying. Had you been laughing both with AND at it it would have been ironic sardonic humour.
But I’m sure you knew that. You’re very smart after all. Your mean behaviour proves that you are highly intelligent, by asserting your higher intellectual status than others.
/\ Can you guess what kind of humour that* is?
*and this
I voted the “pathetic” comment down but this one up so there was no net change in karma. I don’t think you deserve any karma hit because I think the intent was fine; only the delivery was botched.
Just FYI in case you care. :)
I did the same.
Yep, I thought twice before saying it because I suspected you might say something like that, and I don’t like it when people say things like that to me.
And yet you said it anyway! That is laudable.
It can be laudable to run into a burning building to rescue someone, but that doesn’t make it OK to set the building on fire. Now that you know that you’re protecting yourself from disagreement by being not-nice, will you do it less?
I don’t think anyone except Alicorn would be scared by that level of meanness.
Hell, out of all the comments I’ve posted on LW, I can remember exactly two times that I’ve been ‘mean’, and one of those times is in this thread, and was meant semi-humorously.
When I get negative feedback on my communication style, I’m loath to assume that it’s only the speaker who feels that way; of those who perceive a particular problem only a small minority will speak up.
FYI, there are several people who’ve commented here who claim to have trouble posting comments due to anxiety about the sort of feedback they’ll receive.