It can be laudable to run into a burning building to rescue someone, but that doesn’t make it OK to set the building on fire. Now that you know that you’re protecting yourself from disagreement by being not-nice, will you do it less?
I don’t think anyone except Alicorn would be scared by that level of meanness.
Hell, out of all the comments I’ve posted on LW, I can remember exactly two times that I’ve been ‘mean’, and one of those times is in this thread, and was meant semi-humorously.
When I get negative feedback on my communication style, I’m loath to assume that it’s only the speaker who feels that way; of those who perceive a particular problem only a small minority will speak up.
FYI, there are several people who’ve commented here who claim to have trouble posting comments due to anxiety about the sort of feedback they’ll receive.
It can be laudable to run into a burning building to rescue someone, but that doesn’t make it OK to set the building on fire. Now that you know that you’re protecting yourself from disagreement by being not-nice, will you do it less?
I don’t think anyone except Alicorn would be scared by that level of meanness.
Hell, out of all the comments I’ve posted on LW, I can remember exactly two times that I’ve been ‘mean’, and one of those times is in this thread, and was meant semi-humorously.
When I get negative feedback on my communication style, I’m loath to assume that it’s only the speaker who feels that way; of those who perceive a particular problem only a small minority will speak up.
FYI, there are several people who’ve commented here who claim to have trouble posting comments due to anxiety about the sort of feedback they’ll receive.