Everyone is different, and I’d avoid hyperbole like “if I valued my time at all”. I know of a number of 15-year or longer marriages that included long distances for part of the courtship, and sometimes parts of the marriage. On the topic of this post (existence proofs for unconventional courtship success), I got ’em for LDRs.
But you should acknowledge that it’s a burden, and both you and your partner will have to work harder to develop and maintain bonds when you’re not near each other most of the time. And you should have a pretty good hope that the distance is temporary—I don’t know of any successful cases where the couple permanently lives apart.
Agreed about the hyperbole although don’t have mental energy left for reasons xyz. The question about LDRs isn’t whether they exist, which they obviously do, but about whether they’re not easily replaceable for a much higher reward situation, ie love in the same location.
Everyone is different, and I’d avoid hyperbole like “if I valued my time at all”. I know of a number of 15-year or longer marriages that included long distances for part of the courtship, and sometimes parts of the marriage. On the topic of this post (existence proofs for unconventional courtship success), I got ’em for LDRs.
But you should acknowledge that it’s a burden, and both you and your partner will have to work harder to develop and maintain bonds when you’re not near each other most of the time. And you should have a pretty good hope that the distance is temporary—I don’t know of any successful cases where the couple permanently lives apart.
Agreed about the hyperbole although don’t have mental energy left for reasons xyz. The question about LDRs isn’t whether they exist, which they obviously do, but about whether they’re not easily replaceable for a much higher reward situation, ie love in the same location.