Most of the bugs were solved through rapid googling, which felt a little like cheating, but was probably the best method.
Results - Realized the shelf on my desk was only used ~ once per month, and removed it, giving me more work space. - Found trivially easy healthier breakfasts. - Resolved to continually add gratitude notes to anki at least once a week. Method is to appreciate the item on the card, visualizing life without it to better feel the value. - Learned about linters for technical writing like vale, and plan to incorporate. Found a book to skim later. - Reread https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/4K5pJnKBGkqqTbyxx/to-listen-well-get-curious and made notes on how I can approach conversations differently. In particular “if a solution to someone’s problem looks obvious, assume it isn’t and try to understand why.”
“if a solution to someone’s problem looks obvious, assume it isn’t and try to understand why.” This struck me pretty hard. I was wondering though, how effective this is. How much has it improved your listening skills and maybe even your empathy? I find that it could also be counterintuitive—how much has it made you overthink?
I guess it generalizes to: if there’s an unsolved problem and the solution looks obvious, you’re probably missing something.
Beware the natural tendency towards overconfidence
It’s easiest to think of the easy happy path. The problems are usually more nuanced and less mentally available.
Other people thinking about it are probably not being dumb or thoughtless.
I don’t think it’s caused me to overthink in that if something seems one dimensional it’s probably being underthought.
There are learnable exceptions, like a friend might have a mental blindspot to a certain kind of solution, or you might consistently overthink certain situations.
To be honest, I’m still not a great listener because I haven’t squashed the urge to think of advice before empathizing.
Most of the bugs were solved through rapid googling, which felt a little like cheating, but was probably the best method.
Results
- Realized the shelf on my desk was only used ~ once per month, and removed it, giving me more work space.
- Found trivially easy healthier breakfasts.
- Resolved to continually add gratitude notes to anki at least once a week. Method is to appreciate the item on the card, visualizing life without it to better feel the value.
- Learned about linters for technical writing like vale, and plan to incorporate. Found a book to skim later.
- Reread https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/4K5pJnKBGkqqTbyxx/to-listen-well-get-curious
and made notes on how I can approach conversations differently. In particular “if a solution to someone’s problem looks obvious, assume it isn’t and try to understand why.”
“if a solution to someone’s problem looks obvious, assume it isn’t and try to understand why.” This struck me pretty hard. I was wondering though, how effective this is. How much has it improved your listening skills and maybe even your empathy? I find that it could also be counterintuitive—how much has it made you overthink?
I guess it generalizes to: if there’s an unsolved problem and the solution looks obvious, you’re probably missing something.
Beware the natural tendency towards overconfidence
It’s easiest to think of the easy happy path. The problems are usually more nuanced and less mentally available.
Other people thinking about it are probably not being dumb or thoughtless.
I don’t think it’s caused me to overthink in that if something seems one dimensional it’s probably being underthought.
There are learnable exceptions, like a friend might have a mental blindspot to a certain kind of solution, or you might consistently overthink certain situations.
To be honest, I’m still not a great listener because I haven’t squashed the urge to think of advice before empathizing.